I have been married to my husband for almost a year. When we first started dating we used to have sex like every night and would last for hours. But now he rarely wants it when we do have it he lasts I am not kidding like 30 secs. He doesn't even want to have sex the way I like it which is rough and wild. He doesn't touch me like he used to doesn't even say how good I look. Now I don't mean to seem like stuck up but I get hit on by guys like everyday and people are always telling me I have a hot body and I am beautiful. It kind of hurts that he never tells me that stuff or even touch me. I get so sexually frustrated and depressed because I keep thinking that he doesn't want to do it with me anymore even though he denies it every time I try to talk to him about it. Is he not interested in me anymore?

First how often do you have sex now? Are there major changes in your life? Did you get a new house? How are things with his job? The are a lot of reason why guys sex drives slow down. Need more information... your husband loves you, yes he thinks you are sexy, and beautiful he may have a problem expressing it.

I don't think you are speaking to him about it and sounds like you are complaining about it which is why he is denying things.

You have to talk to him in way where he doesn't get defensive. If you ask.. baby why don't YOU touch me anymore he is going to say I do.

Oppps! What happened when you talked with him? Thanks for the added info.

I'm 34, good looking and been married for 8 years to a wonderful man. A couple of years back, our sex life just gradually turned less active to non-existent. When I tried discussing this with my husband, he always said he was stressed at work and prioritized working longer to support our growing family. I didn't probe any further to avoid argument and cause him more stress. But the issue is often on my mind. I kept asking myself if there's something he's not telling me, or maybe he doesn't desire me anymore. Three months ago, I confided in my best friend. That was then she suggested the use of penis cremes which she said can help improve sensitivity in men, and can help maintain penis health. I didn't know if my husband has penis problem or how to encourage him to use one. But I decided to buy one online and showed it to my husband. As expected he told me he didn't need to use one as there's no problem with him. But I insisted and jokingly offered to apply it daily, and to my surprise he said okay. So I casually applied crème on him. I was excited but I didn't press for intimacy. After a week, we just sort of look forward to this activity, we touched more and somehow we were closer than before. Not long after, we were making love again, and things are looking better everyday.