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I think my mom cheated on my dad because I read some of her texts! And omg she was flirting wit this dude dats my dads ''BEST FREND'' and omg I need help what should I do? I'm so sad... im only 13 and its very fustrating 2 see that.. he evn sent my mom a pic of his "unit" if you know what I mean. HELP!
You need to tell your Mom You know and that you are going to inform your dad. That is only way, but give your mom her dime first.Quote:
Originally Posted by oreo630
Make sure you like get those texts or find some proof.. and then let your mom know that you know.. tell her to tell him herself and if she doesn't then you tell him.Quote:
Originally Posted by oreo630
You are 13?Quote:
Originally Posted by oreo630
I suggest talking to another trustable adult.Grandparents or even aunts,uncles, in your family, whom you could trust?
Do you have older siblings?
Please do not take any action by yourself, I would suggest getting help from another adult to try to help your parents find a solution to their problem.
You do not have to take responsibility for your parents actions nor do you need to get involved in their problems alone.
An adult will be able to help your parents more than you could do by yourself.
I know exactly how you are felling. I am 20 years old, but when I was 10 my mom started cheating on my dad at our home when my dad was at work. Even when me and my brothers were home. She would lie to us and tell us her boss was coming over for a meeting and that we had to go to bed (way early in the evening). Me and one of my brothers would spy on them, and seen that it wasn't her boss, but some guy we didn't know. We even caught them making out many times in our living room. My mom didn't know that we knew and we kept it a secret for about a year until I couldn't keep it a secret anymore. When I was 11 years old I had to tell my dad that my mom was cheating on him. It was the first time I had to ever see my dad cry. He was histerical. It was hard on the whole family, my parents ended up getting a divorce. I am glad that I told my dad the truth, and I wouldn't change that decision. I think it would be the right thing for you to do to. Your father has the right to know, after all that is his wife!
I agree with firmy here! It's best to let another adult handle this adult situation. There is no reason that you should have to be in the middle of this. Take firms advice!
You tell your mum (sorry I'm using Australian spelling) that if there's anything going on you know about it. Let her tell you first before you racing ahead. Maybe your dad's friend was just getting some advice or something.
Anyway you should tell your mum why she got married to your dad in the first place...
Srry people there was a BIG MISUNDERSTANDIN! My mom wasn't cheatin! Lol srry! MY BAD!
Hey kid listen very carfully I'm a give you real advice, first tell your mom you know what the is going on and have evidence when you teell her, then you need to black-mail her. Your mom will be so scared of you dad finding out that shell buy you what ever you want \
\ that way you can get what ever you want a ps3 xbox go to disney world new clothes like that what ever you like you know what I'm saying because make her do what ever you want and if she don't -- then tell your dad --
Thrust me you isn't got to worry about nothing because your mom is grown and she's knows what she doing and you will get what ever you want from her
Hmmm... I wonder how you could have got the facts wrong when you saw a picture of the unit? Was it your Dad's unit? Was that the excuse? It's not likely that it's your Dad's unit as your mom has free access to it.Quote:
Originally Posted by oreo630
Well I am glad you think it's a misunderstanding, it certainly seems to have put your mind at ease and that's the important thing here as your parents can work out any issues they might have and you can stay out of the middle of it.
I was playing a game on my moms fhone and I don't know how but it tooked me to her texmessages and it said I can't wait to for you to come over and it was the sames guy and one said I love you butiful and my mom is really prity but I don't think he likes her I think he just wants to have kids with her that's hw a lot of guys are now and I'm only 12 but she says she is not cheating but I don't beleve her if I find out she is liying I'm going to live with my dad and never talk to her again the always say I love you I miss youi can't live my life anymore we uce to be one big happy family and my mom had to ruin it mfor another man I know she's cheating
And I'm scared to tell her I know your cheating
Ok WOW, you have a very skewed view of people there girl...Quote:
I don't think he likes her I think he just wants to have kids with her that's hw a lot of guys are now
This thread is from 2007, if you have an issue you would like to talk about please start your own thread about it.
My god I know how you feel, I found out my mom was cheating on my dad last year, I knew WAY too much. His name, where he works etc. And I still couldn't tell my dad. For 6 months I lived with so much guilt. Then finally, I don't know how it happened, my dad found out. They've stayed together since then but fight all the time.
Things can work out only if they try something different. They only know what they know, and until they find a different way of coming at their problems the same cycle will continue until they split. Of course counseling would be a good choice, but if they can't afford that I recommend the following books.Quote:
Originally Posted by SOAD01
"His needs, Her needs" and "Love Busters" by someone named with the last name like Hardey (can't remember exactly).
Good luck to you and your parents.
Your dad needs to know this one! Get help with people who are close with your dad and mom.The one who really cares!
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