I have been reading some of the questions on this site referring to marriage and I am shocked by how some couples are breaking up for stupid reasons after getting married. One even said she wasn't even in love with him when they got married! You take vows for a reason... they are called vows for a reason. Marriage isn't a 2 year commitment you guys! This is why America has such a high divorce rate! My question is why are people taking their marriage vows so lightly? Marriage is the back bone of society.

I don't think marriage is the backbone of society, but people really do need to take vows more seriously, they aren't supposed to be based on money or status or just wanting to be married or any other stupid reason, they're supposed to be based on love.

I think that people who break their vows by cheating are the worst of all, I mean, I understand that things happen, but let's keep it in our pants haha.

I knew a guy that got a divorce within 6 months of marriage because 'she wouldn't wake up at to a.m to cook for him after HIS night out and she wouldn't take out the garbage.

I think there are two basic reasons and everything else seems from that.

One being we are an instant and fast paced society that is use to at the minute convenience. We don't stop and figure out if it is a good long term goal for thrity years from now or even a year from now. Love is a convenience any more rather than a commitment and when the feeling is gone so is the marriage.

Two, society for the most part only asks what about me, my needs, what I want and they don't take a minute to ask questions to see if they are compatible and so forth. Many assume that all will go well until they get married and find out she doesn't want any kids, he wants to move out of the county or state, she wants a career, he wants her home, etc... Then their needs and wants clash and its easier to go for the divorce than learn cooperation and compromise. It's my way or the high way mentality.

Are VOWS still being used in marriages or just promises? Do they still have meanings today?Do they still carry weight in a marriage after the ceremony?

The amount of marriage breakups and divorce rates is mind boggling! One has to wonder if they're still using the Vows and of what values do the wordings hold?

Oh puhlease - we should all take our life's lessons from Kim Kardasian and be married for 72 days. I mean that is reality right? It was on TV so it must be real.

In my case I got divorced because I was gay. But that was after years of marriage and raising two incredible boys.

Now I am living with someone because our laws won't allow us to get married in our state. Well that and we really haven't known each other that long.

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Originally Posted by Oliver2011

Oh puhlease - we should all take our life's lessons from Kim Kardasian and be married for 72 days. I mean that is reality right? It was on TV so it must be real.

In my case I got divorced because I was gay. But that was after years of marriage and raising two incredible boys.

Now I am living with someone because our laws won't allow us to get married in our state. Well that and we really haven't known each other that long.

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Hmm you must be missing your sons big time!
Mind if I ask?: Did you try and fight it off(being gay) when being married? How overwhelming was it overcoming you? Were you born gay and tried being straight for that long?
I am just curious I had never known much about gay issues!
Thanks.

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Originally Posted by Thirdtime

hmm you must be missing your sons big time!
Mind if I ask?: Did you try and fight it off(being gay) when being married? How overwhelming was it overcoming you? Were you born gay and tried being straight for that long?
I am just curious I had never known much about gay issues!
Thanks.

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Not sure why I would be missing my sons. They are both grown adults and I see them quite often.

I thought of myself as bi-sexual so I could easily be with a woman as with a man. But as I've gotten older I like men better. It was my wife who changed and that led to the divorce. But I was honest with her and we are very good friends today.

Gay people are born gay. Just like straight people are born straight. It isn't something we decide to dabble in at some point.

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Originally Posted by Oliver2011

Not sure why I would be missing my sons. They are both grown adults and I see them quite often.

I thought of myself as bi-sexual so I could easily be with a woman as with a man. But as I've gotten older I like men better. It was my wife who changed and that led to the divorce. But I was honest with her and we are very good friends today.

Gay people are born gay. Just like straight people are born straight. It isn't something we decide to dabble in at some point.

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Thank you so much... really appreciate it!