Happy Endings can happen.
Some of you may recall I posted here a few times around a month ago... basically I'd been left dumbstruck when my boyfriend of almost a year just freaked on me one day after an argument... he went off to work for the weekend and sent a text saying he needed a few weeks no contact to decide what he wanted from his life etc... many of you gave me advice at the time, something I am still grateful for... many thanks to everyone who cared enough to take the time to respond.
I did no contact for five weeks - it wasn't terribly hard, I was so distressed I couldn't bear to speak to him. I'd lost the love of my life and had no idea what to do. I did everything I could to maintain this... he'd said he wanted no contact, I was certainly not giving him the satisfaction of seeing me weak... it killed me, but he wasn't having that last little bit of me.
Until one day - five weeks and one day since I'd seen him - I got up and decided I could do it no more. I knew I was unable to move on until I knew one way or the other. I text him, said we needed to talk. In minutes he replied, said he'd come round the following evening.
And he did. He looked terrible. I had lost a stone and a half so was unable to pretend everything was fine! Seeing him and talking to him was like old times, was like he'd never been away.
He sat and cried, explained it all went way out of hand... the moment I left his house that first night he wanted to come and sort it out, but decided to let the dust settle, hence asked for a few weeks. Then time wore on. He was terrified I'd hate him, would tell him to get lost and he didn't know what to do. He rarely went out, let his job suffer, let his house turn into a mess, hardly shaved or showered, never shaved his head... you could see by looking at him he'd suffered too. - I was looking good, he was a mess!
He left that night, we agreed to meet a week later... and we ended up back together. Its been three weeks now and we've never been happier. He has told me this has been the worst experience of his life, but he was scared to come talk to me. I asked what would've happened had I not made the move and he admitted he would have done it himself that weekend. He basically couldn't live without me, and being without me made him realise. It also made ME realise too in that time - now we just know we're meant to be together... talking how we'll get married one day, planning moving in together soon. Its great.
I just wanted to share this with other posters. Basically, every situation is so different. People can tell you what to do, but in the end you do have to follow your heart. But do it properly. I didn't chase him at the time, I let enough time go by for me to sort my head out as much as I could, but the time came when I knew something had to give. Had I followed advice and not contacted him, would I be in this situation now? He says my contacting him was the push he had been waiting for - he's a gentle sensitive man with little experience with women, and while he says he would've contacted me eventually, he was so terrified it was easier to put it off everyday - as long a he didn't know for sure I hated him, it was easier for him to get by.
But things can come good in the end. As I say every situation is different, but I now fully believe its meant to be it will be. Neither of us have any doubt now about the other - perhaps it was even a good thing in the long run? It sure made us appreciate each other more.
If you're meant to be, you will be... now I know that's true.