Hi I am now 24 and have a son who is 5. I was really stupid when I was 18 and had a few sexual partners. I have had two paternity tests done and they have both come back negative. I know the other persons name and some of his address how would I go about finding him. It is getting to the stage now where I am going to want to tel him the truth soon but what to make the other person aware at the same time. If someone could let me know or help me in any way please do. Thank you rachel

I take it you want your son to know his father. And you want to do everything in the best interest of him but do you really think that this is the best way. I sometimes think it is best to let 'sleeping dogs lie' unless of course you feel that you need child support to assist with your son's upbringing. If you saw no point in letting this fellow know five years ago, why bother now. You could be bringing bad feelings into your life by doing this and accomplishing nothing for your son.

If you know his name and the town he lives in, as you say only part of the address, why don't you check the one line directory and see what you can come up with.

I have tried that but as I don't know all the info its hard. I want my son to know for my sons sake. I did not know who was the dad 5 years ago and only recently found out it was no the other people. I have no interest in money just thought maybe they both might like to know each other or maybe if he does no want to know my son then that will be something we will all deal with together.