Well it starts like this me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship pretty much the longest one I have ever been in also the longest one she has ever been in she was my first for almost everything we also for the whole year hardly ever fought but after we hit the one year mark it seemed like things got really tough and that she didn't have time for me anymore and it made me really upset and hurt me a lot because every time I would set something up for us to hang out she wouldn't be able to come over and it would hurt so then I made the biggest mistake of my life and told her maybe we needed to take a break because I didn't feel she was ready for me in her future but like I said I 100% regret saying that and now its been 2 weeks and like everywhere I go I have memories and I just keep crying and asking her why we aren't back together yet and she just keeps saying she needs space and it hurts because we have always been able to fix all our problems but now lately she has been talking to this kid who I hate and she says they are only friends and I know that's all they can be but it just feels weird because we aren't talking anymore and I am really good friends with one of her because and she keeps telling me that she needs more time that all she keeps saying is she needs time to feel like she can trust me not to hurt her again and to feel that she can just pretty much all together trust me period like I really want to know what I should do because right now I am miserable and have no idea what to do so I am just asking what should I do and will she ever come back to me oh and she always tells her friend that she knows there is no other guy like me and that no guy will ever treat her as good as I did but I just want to know if she is really thinking about getting back together with me because it doesn't seem like she is it because she is showing no emotion towards me and I just want to know what I should do? And what I could do to make her trust me and what I could do to make her come back? PLEASE HELP IM REALLY IN A DEEP STATE OF DEPRESSION OVER THIS

I'd say wait about a few more days and then confront her

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Originally Posted by Jaride90

then I made the biggest mistake of my life and told her maybe we needed to take a break because I didn't feel she was ready for me in her future

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what I could do to make her trust me and what I could do to make her come back?

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You have nothing to apologize for. YOU aren't the one who needs to become more trustworthy.

SHE is the one who was being difficult. SHE is the one who was pushing you away. SHE is the one who is building a new life without you.

There is nothing you can do to make her come back. She is gone.

Relationship experts say when the situation gets like this, there is no hope. It hurts like crazy but you must move on. Get involved with activities and school and friends and hobbies and finally begin dating again.

Memories of this girl will always be with you and you will compare every date to her, but please be gentle with yourself and the rest of the world. A special girl is waiting somewhere for you to find her.

Well... all I can say is she is the one who is stupid I mean if you were such a great guy then why would she agree to the break... im confused all I know is she sounds like she is afraid of commitment or she is afraid of getting hurt...

She is afraid of getting hurt that's what is wrong with the whole situation I just want to know what should I do to make her feel like she can 1 trust me again and 2 feel like she is not going to be hurt?

I think that first thing you need to do is make sure you whole heartedly want to be with this girl. Remember that there was a reason you broke up with her in the first place.

I am going through a very similar situation. I broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago because he wasn't ready to commit and he couldn't tell me if I was going to be in his future. Yeah, it hurt a lot to break up, and it still hurts a lot. I am constantly reminded of him and the good times we have. But when I do get upset about it, I also remember why I broke up with him - he wasn't willing to be with me like I was willing to be with him.

So before you go running back to her, take some time to figure out if this relationship is truly the best thing for you. Don't have contact with her and take a good long look at the relationship. Only two weeks have passed by, and if you go back to her now, probably nothing has changed and you'll go back to feeling the way you did before you broke up.

Sure, it's going to hurt like hell, but you have to remember what's best for you and that whatever will be will be. You can do all you want to get her to trust you, but she has to be willing to meet you half way.

Good luck!