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  • Nov 9, 2007, 04:03 PM
    who_knows
    I can't make it perfect
    I've been in a relationship for nearly 2 years. I love my boyfriend more than anything, no joke! When I say to him "I can't live without you" I genuinly mean it, although it feels like he doubts it too much. I'm pretty stuborn, and have little patience, but I used to have loads. Sometimes he makes me out to be the worst girlfriend ever, and lately I'm starting to believe it. I hate the way I get agrievated so easily around him, he knows what annoys me but continues to do so anyway. I feel guilty after I say he's annoyed me because he says things like "why do I always annoy you?". He knows he doesn't always annoy me, I've told him sooo many times.
    At the start of the relationship we were going so good, up until 6 months we were having arguments almost everyday, then they stopped for a bit, and started again, but not half as bad as before. Now they're pretty much irregular, but of course we have a couple of "tiffs". I'm fed up of having these arguments, I want it back to how we were when we used to click just like that. I know I have a different sense of humour to him, but that seems to affect the relationship a lot.
    Sometimes I feel like giving up, and he knows but I genuinly wouldn't be able to live without him. I'm not suicidal, but this proves how much of an impact he has on me.
    I don't know if much advice could be given, but any would be grateful.
  • Nov 9, 2007, 04:12 PM
    Wondergirl
    You've changed. When you met him and were getting acquainted, you were on your best behavior. Now that he knows you and you are comfortable with him, your unconscious has decided it's safe for you to be yourself.

    Now, think about it. How were you in the beginning? Make a list of the traits that he liked. Can you be that way again?
  • Nov 9, 2007, 04:20 PM
    who_knows
    Thinking about it, it feels as though my patience has changed the most out of everything. Since the first lot of major arguments I can't "tollerate" most things. I know its me mainly causing the arguments and fall outs. Maybe as soon as I build it up again, things will be as perfect as they can be.

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