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  • Nov 9, 2007, 03:04 PM
    grenvibez
    My first love is back in my life.
    My first love wants me back in his life. But presently he is married and keep telling me he will do anything just to get me back. And I'm still in love with him.
    What steps should I do?
  • Nov 9, 2007, 03:05 PM
    J_9
    If he is married, he is off limits. PERIOD!!
  • Nov 9, 2007, 03:07 PM
    kanicky73
    I agree, he's married. You missed out and need to dismiss him as a possible companion.
  • Nov 10, 2007, 07:33 AM
    tidefan1983
    If he's married. First, do you really want to be the other woman? Would you want to start a new relationship off based on deception and lies? Because what do you think he's going to tell his WIFE when he sees you?? AND what makes you think, if he's willing to throw away his marriage, that he isn't lying to you too? He is definitely OFF LIMITS.
  • Nov 10, 2007, 11:05 AM
    s_cianci
    Nothing. He's married, he's off limits. By being the "other woman" you'd only be setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache and frustration.
  • Nov 10, 2007, 12:41 PM
    peggyhill
    The fact that he is (or is trying to) cheat on his wife with you should tell you something about his respect for women: He doesn't have any! Even though you still have feelings for him, don't give it to them. It is unfair to you and his wife. If you get back together with him, even if he leaves her for you, you will always wonder if he is being faithful to you. It sounds like he knows that you still have feelings for him, and he is playing you and his wife. Tell this loser you deserve better because you do. If he's married, like others on here said, he is off limits.
  • Feb 22, 2008, 09:57 PM
    kraz
    He wants the best of both worlds. A wife at home and a willing piece on the side, is this how you thought your life would end up? If he is willing to cheat on his wife, he would be willing to cheat on you too.

    Find yourself a single man that has no baggage, you deserve better the second best.
  • Feb 22, 2008, 10:08 PM
    pasiria
    If he keeps telling you he will do anything just to get you back, I'm assuming you haven't slept with him. Ask him to show you the divorce papers and then you'll talk. Love is complicated, love is strange. It is easy to give advice, but out there in the world, love can break hearts. If he breaks one heart to gain another one, it's perfectly fair. In love and war... he's going to break your heart, hers or his own. Either way, if you are meant for each other and he loves you, the right thing to do is to end it in good terms with his wife. After he is single, start dating. After all everyone is entitled to seek for happiness.

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