Well after waiting for about three months I started talking to my ex girlfriend. We have seen each other occasionally because her mom won't let her come back with me. She checks on her like if she was a little 12 year old girl. I'm tired of this already but I feel that I truly love her. I have gone out with a different girl (as friends) about 4 times and yesterday I actually felt happy around her. She actually made me forget my ex for a couple of hours do I don't think she shared the same interest but I know that she is very hurt too. This morning I felt very like I missed my ex and I feel like I have cheated on her. Should move on since my ex gives me hope and then she goes days without calling or answering my calls. Keep in mind that we were together for about four years.:confused:my ex is 22 years old

Well, if you don't mind me asking but why did you break up. She is an EX for a reason this will determine my response to your question.

Same reason you broke up with you boyfriend. Parents hate me and they are now good friends of my ex wife.

Hmm well I have been thinking because we are in the same situation... Is it really worth waiting for someone who let's others influence their decision?? I think age has a lot also to do with this situation.. how old are you? She is only 22 and if she is still living with her parents then maybe she feels she need them right now. I don't really know the whole situation.
My ex is in his 30's and his parents are still running his life.. that I don't understand

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hmm well I have been thinking because we are in the same situation...Is it really worth waiting for someone who let's others influence their decision??? I think age has a lot also to do with this situation.. how old are you? She is only 22 and if she is still living with her parents then maybe she feels she need them right now. I don't really know the whole situation.
My ex is in his 30's and his parents are still running his life.. that I don't understand

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Well see I'm 28 and she is 22. I met her when she worked at McDonald's. Now she became an RN. Through her collage years I helped her in so many ways. And her parents weren't their at all. Her mom doesn't work and her dad occasionally works. I could type more stuff but the point is that we have been together through harsh times in her life. They now say I want her money. I have been employed by the same company for about 11 years. I have a side business and I'm always making extra cash legally.

Hmmm well all I can say is that I know people tend to forget who was there for them when they were in need, it is always that way, and If I was her anyway I wouldn't be taking any advice from two unstable parents. But those are her parents which I totally understand,. All I can say is that you seem like a wonderful guy, and if you have done all that you can then I would say let her go... You should give her the time she needs and allow her to possibly come back to you. In the meantime you continue to live your life, that doesn't mean you should do any rebound dating or hooking up, focus on you, do things you like, get a hobby join the gym surround yourself by wonderful people as this DO not rush into another relatiosnhip!! As it tend to lead into more heartbreaks . Now only time can tell what is to happen, and if the love is there then I truly believe you may be reconnected. If it so happens you meet a new woman be honest with her about your expectations with your ex that way she knows what she is getting to, allow her to make the decision if she wants to be around you or not, but again don't do any rebound dating..

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hmmm well all I can say is that I know people tend to forget who was there for them when they were in need, it is always that way, and If I was her anyway I wouldn't be taking any advice from two unstable parents. But those are her parents which I totally understand, .. All I can say is that you seem like a wonderful guy, and if you have done all that you can then I would say let her go... You should give her the time she needs and allow her to possibly come back to you. In the meantime you continue to live your life, that doesn't mean you should do any rebound dating or hooking up, focus on you, do things you like, get a hobby join the gym surround yourself by wonderful people as this DO not rush into another relatiosnhip!!! as it tend to lead into more heartbreaks . Now only time can tell what is to happen, and if the love is there then I truly believe you may be reconnected. If it so happens you meet a new woman be honest with her about your expectations with your ex that way she knows what she is getting to, allow her to make the decision if she wants to be around you or not, but again don't do any rebound dating..

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Its hard since I have been waiting for her for about five months. When we are together things are great and when we aren't she treats me like crap. This new girl goes to the church I go to and we go out as friends but yesterday it was so different we both felt very comfortable.
I wish I could get back with her but I just feel so lonely!

I know what you mean, but you do realize if you keep seeing this other person and feelings become involved than it would only add more pain to the situation... Okay you need to talk to your ex to see where you stand if there is or ever will be any hopes of reconnecting. What do your intution tell you? Sometimes our intuition is so loud and points us to the answers we need but we seem to turn the volume down, only to feel later that uncanny cliché feeling of I knew it all along.. . Then you will punish yourself for waiting for her so long, you will begin to feel you waisted time, in the meantime, the right person could pass you by. It's a tough decision but make sure your ex gives you a clear answer and make sure that you hear her and really listen to what she is telling you or even not telling you, sometimes actions speak louder than words...

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I know what you mean, but you do realize if you keep seeing this other person and feelings become involved than it would only add more pain to the situation... Okay you need to talk to your ex to see where you stand if there is or ever will be any hopes of reconnecting. What do your intution tell you? sometimes our intuition is so loud and points us to the answers we need but we seem to turn the volume down, only to feel later that uncanny cliche feeling of I knew it all along.. .Then you will punish yourself for waiting for her so long, you will begin to feel you waisted time, in the meantime, the right person could pass you by. It's a tough decision but make sure your ex gives you a clear answer and make sure that you hear her and really listen to what she is telling you or even not telling you, sometimes actions speak louder than words...

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Amen Sister! Like I said when we are together it is great. Look answer this. I haven't talked to her since Monday. Ussally we go out on Thursday for lunch I was not going to call her because I'm afraid of rejection should I

One of two things can happen you call her, and get rejected and the worst case is she doesn't want to be with you, you will hurt for sometime, but you will have some form of closure so the healing process is a little easier to cope. Don't fret it isn't the end of the world but the beginning of a new life...

The other you don't call her, and she never contacts you and you will never know how she truly feels, but if there is a pattern of her contacting you and all of a sudden it ceases to be, maybe she don't want to hurt you and hopes that you get the point, This method doesn't really warrant any closure and may leave you in a uncomfortable position.. Of awaiting her phone call only to find that she may want to or may not want to be with you..

By this time you will feel you have waisted time waiting.. If she is unsure about what she wants that is something she will have to figure out on her own nothing you can say or do can convince her otherwise.. SHe has to feel she misses you and can't be without you...