Hi, I need your help. I think that a guy that I am involved with is playing
Games with me.

I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's
Barbershop for about 6 months now. We always gave indirect flirting signals to
Each other. Well finally on my birthday (september), we ran into each other at a
Club, and he approached me. Even though I knew a lot of things about him because
He is the first cousin of my bestfriend's son's father. This is the first real
Interaction we had. I was drunk and it was my 21st birthday, so I made the
Mistake of sleeping with him. I know it goes again my better judgement but I
Wanted it to. Well anyway, we have continued this sexual relationship (4 times).
At first he seemed very childish. When he would call my phone and I didn't
Answer he would say things like "you must be with your boo'. and then when I
called to return the phone call he wouldn't answer and call back a couple of
hours later. when i would ask why he didn't answer, he would say things like,
"the same reason you didn't answer". That has happened on several occasions. One
time he stopped calling and returning my calls. because he thought i didn't
speak to him at a club we both were at. He has even left my house because he
asked "where is my boo". and I just responded "Whatever". Well, I really like
Him, he has good characteristics and also a lot of childish ones. He seems very
Jealous, sometimes referring to me having another boyfriend or something. Well I
Am now ready to see him outside of the bedroom. I hinted about this before, but
He didn't really respond. And I am serious. I will not continue with this unless
It involves going out sometimes. I mean we have never actually been on a real
Date Ex. Movies or restaurant. He does act like he likes me sometimes. Every time
He comes over, he always spends the night. But I am just not sure. I want to
Know how can I bring this up to his attention without sounding desperate or too
Demanding. I want to let him know that I won't continue having sex with him
Unless this progresses. However I don't want to scare him off. I want to build
The attraction. Because I have noticed lately that he has been blowing me off,
More than usual. He always says that he has been so busy though.
I am really wondering if I should call again to get up with him to discuss this or should I wait to see if he even calls again?

Find him or whatever, talk to him, be straight NO "this makes me feel" NO "i really like you, but..." don't do that. Be straight forward say "do you like me or not?" and if he answers "yes" then say "make time for me" leave him with that. If he follows and wants to talk more it means he cares if he doesn't than he is using u for a bootay call and its time to move on.

I know that it is something that requires balls and courage but when u muster it it'll save you tons of sleepless nights wondering if he really likes you.

Be strong and stop worrying it'll be okay.

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Originally Posted by Courtney07

Hi, I need your help. I think that a guy that I am involved with is playing
games with me.

I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's
barbershop for about 6 months now. We always gave indirect flirting signals to
each other. Well finally on my birthday (september), we ran into each other at a
club, and he approached me. Even though I knew alot of things about him because
he is the first cousin of my bestfriend's son's father. This is the first real
interaction we had. I was drunk and it was my 21st birthday, so I made the
mistake of sleeping with him. I know it goes again my better judgement but I
wanted it to. Well anyway, we have continued this sexual relationship (4 times).
At first he seemed very childish. When he would call my phone and I didn't
answer he would say things like "you must be with your boo'. and then when I
called to return the phone call he wouldn't answer and call back a couple of
hours later. when i would ask why he didn't answer, he would say things like,
"the same reason u didn't answer". That has happened on several occasions. One
time he stopped calling and returning my calls. because he thought i didn't
speak to him at a club we both were at. He has even left my house because he
asked "where is my boo". and I just responded "Whatever". Well, I really like
him, he has good characteristics and also alot of childish ones. he seems very
jealous, sometimes referring to me having another boyfriend or something. Well I
am now ready to see him outside of the bedroom. I hinted about this before, but
he didn't really respond. And I am serious. I will not continue with this unless
it involves going out sometimes. I mean we have never actually been on a real
date Ex. movies or restaurant. He does act like he likes me sometimes. Everytime
he comes over, he always spends the night. But i am just not sure. I want to
know how can I bring this up to his attention without sounding desperate or too
demanding. I want to let him know that I won't continue having sex with him
unless this progresses. However I don't want to scare him off. I want to build
the attraction. because I have noticed lately that he has been blowing me off,
more than usual. He always says that he has been soo busy though.
I am really wondering if I should call again to get up with him to discuss this or should I wait to see if he even calls again?

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I hate to say this, but play hard to get. Don't sleep with him until he takes you out on a REAL date. You should always speak your mind, so tell him what you want! Good luck!

Before you can build a house you need a strong foundation. Since the relationship started like you two were sex buddies I don't think that it is possible for you convert this into a meaning full relationship. If he wanted to be with you in that way, he would try to move the relationship in that direction. He is content with just having sex with you.

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Originally Posted by Courtney07

Hi, I need your help. I think that a guy that I am involved with is playing
games with me.

I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's
barbershop for about 6 months now. We always gave indirect flirting signals to
each other. Well finally on my birthday (september), we ran into each other at a
club, and he approached me. Even though I knew alot of things about him because
he is the first cousin of my bestfriend's son's father. This is the first real
interaction we had. I was drunk and it was my 21st birthday, so I made the
mistake of sleeping with him. I know it goes again my better judgement but I
wanted it to. Well anyway, we have continued this sexual relationship (4 times).
At first he seemed very childish. When he would call my phone and I didn't
answer he would say things like "you must be with your boo'. and then when I
called to return the phone call he wouldn't answer and call back a couple of
hours later. when i would ask why he didn't answer, he would say things like,
"the same reason u didn't answer". That has happened on several occasions. One
time he stopped calling and returning my calls. because he thought i didn't
speak to him at a club we both were at. He has even left my house because he
asked "where is my boo". and I just responded "Whatever". Well, I really like
him, he has good characteristics and also alot of childish ones. he seems very
jealous, sometimes referring to me having another boyfriend or something. Well I
am now ready to see him outside of the bedroom. I hinted about this before, but
he didn't really respond. And I am serious. I will not continue with this unless
it involves going out sometimes. I mean we have never actually been on a real
date Ex. movies or restaurant. He does act like he likes me sometimes. Everytime
he comes over, he always spends the night. But i am just not sure. I want to
know how can I bring this up to his attention without sounding desperate or too
demanding. I want to let him know that I won't continue having sex with him
unless this progresses. However I don't want to scare him off. I want to build
the attraction. because I have noticed lately that he has been blowing me off,
more than usual. He always says that he has been soo busy though.
I am really wondering if I should call again to get up with him to discuss this or should I wait to see if he even calls again?

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Grl I say deff. Wait let the guy call you if you call him he is going to know your fallen for the game I know I have been there before so even though you do want to see him act as if its nothing if you do this you should have him eating out of the palm of your hands hope I could help

Jealousy, especially this early on, can be a huge red flag. I don't know what you find attractive about this guy, but he sounds like a loser to me.

If he is already making hurtful comments, suggesting that you are seeing someone else (and also, suggesting that he is), this will likely only escalate over time.

Also, I'm sure you know this, but make sure to use protection. Sleeping with guys like this just leaves you open to heartache and STD's.

I hope you can find someone that will be interested in YOU first, and your body second.