My husband and I recently found out we are expecting our 3rd child. We have been trying for many years. The way we told our families is by using scrabble pieces and they had to spell out the words "we are having a baby". All my mom said was "oh. I guess you'd better fix you basement then." That's all I got. She has acted mad about it since then. She won't talk about it and when other people ask me things she has this scowl on her face. I'm 34 for God's sake. It's horrible that we are getting amazing support from everyone except my own mother. I'm not sure what to do. I want to lash out and give her a piece of my mind. And just be plain mean like she's being to me.:mad:

Have you come right out and asked her why she is acting this way? I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your mom but something is obviously bothering her about the whole thing. I would just ask her.

I would have a sit down with her and explain what you're feeling. Maybe she doesn't realize how she's coming across? Maybe she has some serious concerns.

Anyway, congrats!

Let her know that you feel she is not happy about you having another child and that you do not feel that she has your support. If she can not support you or be loving about your new arrival then it is best just to stay away from her? Right? Make sure you get this out in the open but use an approach that is respectful and calm no matter how she reacts and see where it goes.

Joe

By the way congratulations and sending lots of love to you and your whole family.

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Originally Posted by kanicky73

have you come right out and asked her why she is acting this way? i dont know what kind of relationship you have with your mom but something is obviously bothering her about the whole thing. I would just ask her.

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Well I haven't said anything. I have the kind of relationship where I never say anything to her about my feelings. I just don't get it. Sure I'm happy, but I am scared to death. What place is it of hers to act like that.

It is time to share your feelings. That is the biggest problem here. Feelings are not being expressed but hiding and this will bound to blow up in your face if you do not deal with it.

I can understand where you're coming from. My mother and I have a tough relationship because I feel like I can't be open and share with her... probably because she can be quite selfish and likes to force her own feelings on others instead. ;)

However, you can rise above this and do the talking. I'm sure you wouldn't want your own children to feel like they can't share their emotions with you, so try and be an example to them. Your mom may have good reason for the way she's feeling... she may not. Either way, its going to eat you up if you don't find out.

Good luck

I agree with all the post in this question. You ask your mom to see what is going on. Maybe your mom is being bothered by something or maybe she is just being mean. You'll never know if you don't ask her.