My husband of 10yrs and I had some relationship problems in the very beginning resulting from his drinking and control issues.(he now doesn't drink) He and his sister ran to his father and step mother, telling them what a terrible person I was and of course made me out as the bad guy. As a result... his father and step mother do not except me and my 2 children from prev. marriage. My husband will meet his father for dinner or golf. His father recently gave the grandchildren $10,000 each toward college. My kids of course got nothing. Never a birthday card or holiday gifts. My question is... I feel its my husbands responsibility to clear this problem up and let his father know he does not accept his wife and step children being treated this way. I feel, why should he have a relationship with his father when he can't accept his family. I feel betrayed at times and feel like I'm enabling this to happen to myself and children. My husband has been in my kids life since they were very young. We have no children of our own. I feel like his father is getting his cake and eating it too since he still socializes with his son. Its like I come second and if this were my parents, I would resolve the issues and if they wouldn't accept my spouse and kids, I would tell them it will effect our relationship as well.
Thanks for listening