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  • Nov 6, 2007, 07:11 AM
    orgless
    How can I tell if I'm aroused
    Been married for 24 years and to be honest although I've never had an orgasm from anymeans him or me, I honestly don't even know if I get aroused, I feel absolutely nothing at all, from anything that we try

    In the end we just get down to him coming and stuff and then that's it over and sleep, help its driving us both mad here
  • Nov 6, 2007, 07:19 AM
    Marriedguy
    You never had an orgasm. We need more information has he tried oral? How is the foreplay? You may be able to have an orgasm it just make be hard to reach then most. Also you did mention that anyone before the marriage.. is your husband you only partner you been with.
  • Nov 6, 2007, 07:23 AM
    orgless
    Thanks for replying

    Yes he tries that, we got he book she cums first and he reckons that he does everything that's in there, I can't tell you what he does as it's that boring and I don't feel any of it.

    Foreply? Not so sure really what you mean, he/we kiss for a while then he will kiss my neck and then put his hand down to see if I'm wet, that's when he goes down on me, if I'm not wet, then he could be there for hours on end, I actually fell asleep 3 times with him down there doing that,

    Is that any help for you? I hope so
  • Nov 6, 2007, 07:54 AM
    john 321
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by orgasmless
    thanks for replying

    yes he tries that, we got he book she cums first and he reckons that he does everything thats in there, i can't tell you what he does as its that boring and i dont feel any of it.

    foreply? not so sure really what you mean, he/we kiss for a while then he will kiss my neck and then put his hand down to see if im wet, thats when he goes down on me, if im not wet, then he could be there for hours on end, i actually fell asleep 3 times with him down there doing that,.

    is that any help for you? i hope so

    Have you tried a vibrator my wife and I have been married for 9 years and I got her one 2 moths ago to spice things up and she has orgasms more then every good luck
  • Nov 6, 2007, 08:01 AM
    orgless
    Yes we have a few different ones but I still don't know if or when or what being aroused is
  • Nov 6, 2007, 08:07 AM
    john 321
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by orgasmless
    yes we have a few different ones but i stil dont know if or when or what being aroused is

    You can't feal any thing not even the vibration
  • Nov 6, 2007, 08:09 AM
    orgless
    Nope noot a thing, I have even plugged my ears as its only the sond that I hear then I know its switched on
  • Nov 6, 2007, 08:12 AM
    john 321
    Well if you are getting wet you are aroused, have you tried masturbation by yourself can you have a orgasm that way?
  • Nov 6, 2007, 08:15 AM
    orgless
    I have tried that but can't even get wet myself ansd have great difficulty with hubby
  • Nov 6, 2007, 08:19 AM
    john 321
    Well you know yourself better the he dose so if you can't get yourself off how can he help get you off. Also have you have an surgery or damage in that area to lose felling
  • Nov 6, 2007, 08:29 AM
    orgless
    Thing is though I only started to try and masterbate recently, up until then I never knew that women did actually orgasm I thought that was solely for men, and as for a c lit? Never heard of it.

    I've never been any different, even though we have had 3 kids by c section due to failed delivery, that is the only thing I've ever had done down there

    As for me trying myself , I can't get anything in side of me, fingers or vib it just don't fit! I know that sounds stupid, as he can and does get inside with no problem but I can't do it, so the vib is for outside only and then I can't feel anything, when he tried with his fingers all I get is this very painful need to pee and that hurts so much I can't stand it and get him to stop, I have heard that this is normal and that its meant to pass so how long before that happens? I've suffered this for 30 minutes and still nothing it doesn't go away ever
  • Nov 6, 2007, 09:20 AM
    john 321
    You don't sick the vibe in you work it around the clitoris that shod work paly around with it in the tub or shower anything make sure you use lube
  • Nov 6, 2007, 09:30 AM
    orgless
    But that's just what we have been doing with the vib and it does nothing at all for me on there, I cnt even tell if its turned on or not except for the noise of it
  • Nov 6, 2007, 09:35 AM
    john 321
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by orgasmless
    but thats just what we have been doing with the vib and it does nothing at all for me on there, i cnt even tell if its turned on or not except for the noise of it

    Dose you get it wet
  • Nov 6, 2007, 09:37 AM
    orgless
    No
  • Nov 6, 2007, 10:01 AM
    orgless
    Oh you mean the vib? No we can't use any of them in the bath as they have either batteries or are mainspowered
  • Nov 6, 2007, 10:02 AM
    john 321
    Dose any thing trun you on
  • Nov 6, 2007, 10:04 AM
    orgless
    Not sure what you mean
  • Nov 6, 2007, 10:06 AM
    john 321
    What arouses you
  • Nov 6, 2007, 10:07 AM
    orgless
    I don't know if I did I wouldn't be asking would I as then id know what arousal was

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