I kind of like I'm taken a seat on the crazy train here! He broke my heart, so I ran over his motorcycle. Fast forward 16 years and we've met again. We're both real live grown up adults now. I'm no longer a crazy psycho woman, more zen like (at least at the moment), and he's a divorced father of two. The first time I saw him again after all that time, bonehead here got butterflies, wanted to grab him throw him down and never let him up. So much for not showing my "hand"

Here's my question: do you think the "once a cheater always a cheater" still applies? Or was it just young, stupid and hormones?

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Originally Posted by WickedScepter

I kind of like I'm taken a seat on the crazy train here!! He broke my heart, so I ran over his motorcycle. Fast forward 16 years and we've met again. We're both real live grown up adults now. I'm no longer a crazy psycho woman, more zen like (at least at the moment), and he's a divorced father of two. The first time I saw him again after all that time, bonehead here got butterflies, wanted to grab him throw him down and never let him up. So much for not showing my "hand"

Here's my question: do you think the "once a cheater always a cheater" still applies? Or was it just young, stupid and hormones?

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If he wants to get with you again, why not try it, with age, comes wisdom. Not to mention what's it going to hurt?

A lot can change in 16 years! I wouldn't jump into anything but going out for coffee and catching up couldn't hurt.

Who did the cheating you or him, and if it was him, why is he divorced? The answer to that question my be your answer.

I would deff play catch up first and find out what's been going on in his life, and why he's divorced.

He cheated on me...
As far as the divorce thing? His wife cheated on him. I don't want to throw in that whole Karma thing, but it seems to apply.
I can't say that I've marked one up in the success column as far as marriages go. Yes plural, marriageS. I actually met him while going through my first divorce.

Are you married now?

Nope! 3 years past a heinous divorce.

Well, I'd take it slow. You two have a weird history. Get to know each other and stay out of the bedroom.

Hes hurt you in the past and there's nothing stopping him from doing it again. If you really want to try a relationship with him be cautious and don't put up with any rubbish from him. You have to think of your feeling first x

Funny thing? I'm so way all about me first now. I agree with the no rubbish. Weird history is an understatement!

So have you seen him? What has happened?

16 years is a long time. Why not meet up casually if you both have no baggage or nothing is holding you down.

Do either one of you have children?

No kids for me, well unless you count 4 pugs, a cat and two step cats (my roommate's kids). He's got three boys, two with the ex and one stepson. Totally respect the whole dad thing he's got going on. I've not a parent, nor have I played on on TV, his divorce is somewhat fresh, so I don't want to mix things up by being DADDY'S NEW GIRLFRIEND, when we're just taking first steps. As much as I want to fling myself over that cliff, I think cautious optimism is best right now. So far? HE'S WONDERFUL!!

So what have you guys done? Do you think he has changed much?

We've talked for hours and hours on the phone. The first time I saw him in person, I felt like I had been struck by lightning. I keep thinking of what a different person I was 16 years ago. I know I've learned some hard life lessons, lost both my parents within two years, again topped off by the bad marriage. It's changed my perspective on what's really important to me. Through our conversations, it sounds as if he's had enough of the drama also.

Hi Wicked
I would say why not , go for it.
WARNING though , if his divorce is still fresh as you say I would be taking it very slowly. You don't want to become another one of the thousands of "Rebound relationship" statistics.