Ex girlfriend Pregnant! Any hope of getting back together one day?
My girlfriend and I finished 2 weeks ago.
I knew in a way that things were not right for a few weeks, I'd noticed a sudden coldness and hostility.
I'd questioned her about going out because I suspecte she would be cheating, though I back-tracked immediately.
I made an issue of an ex boyfriend showing up at her door at 2am, which she said showed I did not trust her. I assured her I did trust her but that it was undeniably suspicious behaviour from her.
Then we broke up, I cried, begged etc etc. I know it was all wrong to do, so after I'd done all that on the Saturday 20th October; I didn't cry anymore, I came on here and read about break-ups and got support from here.
I decided last week that we should remain good friends since we would be seeing each other at parties and I didn't want any awkwardness.
Then bang! She tells me she is pregnant.
So I was asking her a million questions, allsorts going round my head at this shocking news.
I said it would be best for baby if we were together but that I loved her still for her and wanted her to consider any chance of us getting back together. She is adamant she will not; and it is killing me.
I know I have really good prospects, I'm still to finish my university Law degree so I have a good chance in the future of a decent job.
I would be good for her but I guess she has to realise this herself, and me trying to persuade her will be counter-productive.
I have offered my full support any time she wants it, so she knows this.
My question is: Given the new complicated scenario of her being pregnant, is there really any way she may see in the future that maybe we could at least try to make a go of it.
I've been asking her and my friends, and aparently it seems the reason for us splitting up was that I was around her too much and didn't allow her enough space. I didn't even realise I was doing this, and she never hinted. But they say that she bottles things up and doesn't reveal her emotions, which I guess is true.
I am seriously considering going over to a relatives 4000 miles away in america for 3 months to get away for a while.
Will me not being around for that length of time make her miss me. He knows I am madly in love with her. I really am. But I know that being around her will make her more certain that she will never get back with me.
Do any of you know of a situation like this which has ended in the partners getting back and at least trying to make a go of things?
Have stranger things happened. In my head there is no hope and it is killing me.
I just want to have that chance, if it doesn't work out the fine. I know I won't repeat the same mistakes.
I want to be a great daddy and a great partner; I know she would not regret getting back, but at the momenbt it seems there is more chance of me getting to the moon in my car.
Please help.
My pregnant Ex- getting back? Could we? Should we?
Ok, Many of you may have read abou my ex.
To sum up, she dumped me about 8 weeks ago, told me she was pregnant about 6 and a half weeks ago.
Well, I have kept contact to a minimum, I would have no contact whatsoever if she were not pregnant.
As she is pregnant I do occasionally call her to see how she is and show that I care at least what she is going through.
When we broke up she told me she definitely does not want to be with me anymore - she just 'knows' is what she said.
This was her view, despite being pregnant.
However she does seem to be at parties that I attend. I am very at ease around her and extremely cool calm and assured around her.
What is confusing me now is that I am hearing from friends of hers that 'she is really missing me.' This came a week ago after we went to the 12 weeks scan for our baby. This friend asked her 'do you think you and him will ever get back,' aparently she replied she really misses me but hates being horrible and y to me.
So is it really her that is the problem? She seems to have a problem admitting if she feels for me. And in person she can be blunt and snappy with me. I do not react badly to this at all.
What should I do, Should I continue the coolness and no contact thing? Or should I ask her whether we can try to work something out, not necessarily right now though.
I really am confused now. In an ideal world I would love to be with her; but on the other hand I am simply not willing to accept any crap from her and I am not going to sell myself short. In other words she should work for the relationship too, not just me.
Just an update on how I see her. Yes love her and would like to be with her. But in my mind I can be without her and I can find another woman. This is partly through necessity.
In short, I am not desperate. But I would like her back.
how do I proceed?
What is your advice?
And what does her saying she 'misses me lots' really mean? I'd be especially interested to hear from women, as you may have more of an idea how women think!! :D
regards, Snuffy.