I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. It's a long story so please read on because I need your advice. We got together in February 2006 when we were both at school together, we had a fab relationship, very caring and fun. However when we went off to university in September 2006 he dumped me because of the distance thing. In January 2007 he said he wanted me back because he missed me and made a mistake. He dumped me again last week (october 2007) he said he doesn't feel the same about me as he used to. I want him back so badly, I want to know how I can get him back and make him feel like he did. But I don't know how. We had a great relationship, as we lived 100 miles apart at uni we'd visit each other every week/two weeks. During the summer we went on holiday and had the best time ever, we both enjoyed being with each other. I don't know how that could change so quickly, he says he got contemplative thoughts and didn't feel the same anymore. What should I do? We are perfect, he says he can't commit to one girl for life, but I believe with help he could and I want that girl to be me. Please help. What should I do?

As bad as it may sound, you should probably just let him go. It's not good for your own emotional well-being to invest your time and energy into someone who's very wishy-washy on whether he wants to be with you. All you will get out of continuing to pursue a relationship with this person is pain. You continue on taking care of yourself; if you're still in school, focus on it and on finishing getting your degree or diploma and get yourself situated in a stable position, job-wise and financially. Don't dwell too much on not being involved with someone at present, you may find another person who is well worth your time and will treat you as you deserve to be. You're still very young, yet. There's plenty of time to find another person to be with.

Did You ask him why he felt that way? IS there someone else? If you really love him, don't let him go without true answers. Just don't waste your life waiting around on him. There's plenty of men out there!

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Originally Posted by geniegee2003

im 19 years old and my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. It's a long story so please read on coz i need your advice. We got together in february 2006 when we were both at school together, we had a fab relationship, very caring and fun. However when we went off to university in september 2006 he dumped me coz of the distance thing. In january 2007 he said he wanted me back coz he missed me and made a mistake. He dumped me again last week (october 2007) he said he doesnt feel the same about me as he used to. I want him back so badly, i want to know how i can get him back and make him feel like he did. But i dont know how. We had a gr8 relationship, as we lived 100 miles apart at uni we'd visit eachother every week/two weeks. During the summer we went on holiday and had the best time ever, we both enjoyed beng with eachother. i dont know how that could change so quickly, he says he got contemplative thoughts and didnt feel the same anymore. What should i do? We are perfect, he says he can't commit to one girl for life, but i believe with help he could and i want that girl to be me. Please help. What should i do?

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It's just that I still believe there's hope of a reconcilliation. We were long distance and he stills comes 2 visit me and texts me. Some of the things he says shows he still wants me and I don't know what to do for the best, I know were good for each other and have fantastic times together. While there's hope I believe I should keep trying because I don't want to imagine a life where I can't wake up in the morning with him next to me, watching over me with a big smile

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Originally Posted by geniegee2003

It's just that i still believe theres hope of a reconcilliation. We were long distance and he stills comes 2 visit me and txts me. Some of the things he says shows he still wants me and i dont know what to do for the best, i know were good for eachother and have fantastic times together. While theres hope i believe i should keep trying coz i dont want to imagine a life where i can't wake up in the morning with him next to me, watching over me with a big smile

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Do you really think he would like to change this situation?He can get the cake and eat it too.

Sure he'll visit,and then abandon you soon after , then text/call, visit and abandon you.

Are you on the line,hook line and sinker,He got a fish and he isn't going to throw it back till it is smelly or rotten.

Catch my drift? Move on, your in a game with one outcome,you being hurt.

Move forward.

KBC

Maybe its best to move on and find someone who'l treat you right