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  • Nov 12, 2005, 08:29 AM
    Jenny4192005
    Help!! Could i be pregnant??
    I had sex on September 20th.. I usually start my period on the 7th of each month and after I had sex I haven't really had a period.. in November I had really light bleeding that only lasted for 3 days and this month I'm just spotting again but this time it's brown?? This is not normal for me... I took a pregnancy test like 3 weeks after having sex but it came out negative... could I be pregnant? And another thing.. I had to have x-rays and a CT scan done... will that hurt the baby??
  • Nov 12, 2005, 08:50 AM
    fredg
    Pregnant?
    Hi,
    You really, really, need to see a doctor. You can also do another pregnancy test with products over-the-counter from a drug store, or other.
    But, please talk with your doctor about your concerns, before the scans take place... don't take any chances.
  • Nov 13, 2005, 08:30 AM
    Chery
    Hi. Welcome to the forum.
    First and foremost, when in doubt - Always see your doctor.

    Second, since you took the HPTs. Even though they might be negative does not mean your not, and there are occasions of spotting in the first trimester, sometimes through the entire pregnancy, you'll just have to be monitored by your physician more.

    When you go for x-rays, the technicians are obligated to ask if you might be pregnant, and even if you are not sure, they have to place a lead apron around your waiste to protect you, so there is really no worry there if they did what was standard operating procedures in any respectable radiology clinic.

    You did not tell us how old you were, if you were single, or if this is the first time you had unprotected intercourse, this information sometimes helps also to better know you - you should always listen to the signals of your body and know the differences when they change.

    Check out the following sites, they will help you through this a little more to reassure if you are or if not. Depending on your age, and if you intend on keeping the child if you are, I also hope you know it's a big responsibility..
    If you don't then you have to make some serious choices which you need professional help with, so again, see a doctor and a family planning counselor if necessary. Even though it might be too late, consider how the 'potential father' would react. Good luck.

    http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sym...gnancy/PR00102 scroll down and even get answers on flying while pregnant, exercise, dangers, etc.

    www.askdramy.com The U.K. online doctor, here you can post on a forum, or 'ask the Dr. Amy' with a click. The FAQ Tab on the homepage is also a good place to click and has a lot of good subject matter. P.S. Most of the articles are printable in PDF format.
    Keep us posted.
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  • Nov 14, 2005, 02:10 PM
    Jenny4192005
    Help!! Could i be pregnant??
    Im 16 years old.. I started having sex when I was 13 so no this is not my 1st time.. I still haven't had my period... I really don't want to go to the doctors because I don't want my mom to find out because she would flip... and also when they did the x-rays they didn't put anything over me I just laid on the table and they took the x-rays... I'm worried that if I am pregnant that all the tests that I had done hurt the baby... what should I do? I don't want my mom to find out... please help :confused:

    p.s. I always use a condom when I have sex but the last time I had sex I let him go in me since he had a condom on... atleast I think... and it felt really weird... like really warm... when he busted in me... could that mean the condom broke?
  • Nov 14, 2005, 02:34 PM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jenny4192005
    Im 16 years old.. i started having sex when i was 13 so no this is not my 1st time.. i still havent had my period.... i really dont wanna go to the doctors because i dont want my mom to find out because she would flip... and also when they did the x-rays they didnt put anything over me i just laid on the table and they took the xrays... im worried that if i am pregnant that all the tests that i had done hurt the baby.... what should i do? i dont want my mom to find out... please help :confused:

    p.s. i always use a condom when i have sex but the last time i had sex i let him go in me since he had a condom on...atleast i think... and it felt really weird... like really warm.... when he busted in me... could that mean the condom broke??

    check the links out in post number 3. Then fess up to your mom, because if you are pg, then she'll notice soon anyway, and you must tell the doctor, since you did not have lead apron during x-ray and he needs to know this. Your b/f did not respect you and the warm feeling was for sure not a condom. I really don't understand why you had to start so early, but you need to tell your mom, she already knows anyway, so be truthful to her and trust in her that she loves you and will help. All moms love their daughters, and you might get razzed first, but in the end she will support you, and it's best if she goes to the doctor with you. Someone has to be responsible here, and it does not seem like it's you or that creep you call a boyfriend. How old is he, probably a little older and just using you.. -and it's too late for you to not tell anyone, or turn back the clock, so please do the right thing when things get hot, moms are usually there more than anyone else. I really hope the best for you and wish you health and a little more respect for yourself from now on.

    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_17_6.gif Please face up to your problems, you can't run forever... and it will make you feel better.
  • Nov 15, 2005, 01:48 PM
    Jenny4192005
    Help!! Could I be pregnant??
    I lost my virginity when I was 10 because I had been raped... Im not with the guy I had sex with... Hes 23 I think... And yea I went to that link that you gave me and I had some of them symptoms... I can't tell my mom because what if I'm not really pregnant? Then I would be grounded forever!! She don't even think that I'm having sex... I think that I'm going to make a docs appointment without her knowing and have them do a blood test because I know them are most accurate... I still don't understand why I'm having brown blood... could that mean that I'm pregnant too? All my symptoms are: tender breasts, heardaches, feel like I can't get enough sleep, at times I start cryn for no reason and at times I'm *****n people out because a lot of things get on my nerves, my back has been killing me lately... and that's about it... and I'm startn to get hungry more often and if I don't eat I feel like throwing up... is that normal? :confused:
  • Nov 15, 2005, 01:53 PM
    Jenny4192005
    And I had another question... u said that the warm feeling was definently not a condom... Could it have broke? Or do you think that he just took it off? I mean if he did have a condom on would I of even felt him go inside me? I'm so confused and I'm stressin out about this one... because if I am pregnant I would already be 2 months on the 20th of this month... Help!
  • Nov 15, 2005, 03:50 PM
    Chery
    In answer to both of your questions, you are probably pg and the condom broke, so you will have to face up to your mom sooner or later, sorry about the rape, I was raped too, but that did not make me continue to have sex. This is supposed to be special, not just something to throw away to the next best creep. You really need some self respect ,and help from your mother, no matter how much trouble she will give you, she will still be there for you and maybe being grounded is just the right thing for you now. Go and see the doctor as soon as possible and get your life in order, please...

    :(
  • Nov 16, 2005, 04:57 AM
    Chery
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    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif Jenny, being grounded is no big thing, it happens to a lot of girls and they get over it. Also while at home you and your mom can get closer and you can tell her all, from the beginning, if you can't trust your mom, who else can you trust. Believe me if your mom is like me, she'll love you no matter what and will be there for you, so give her a chance. She might just wind up being your best pillar of strength. You'll never know until you try. I'm sending you a document that you can read without being on the net and check out the symptoms you have. PLEASE give your mom the chance to be of help to you, unless she's the type who abused you from the beginning, you might read her all wrong because she's tried to set rules, all of us moms do and it's for a reason.

    You can't go through this alone and stay mentally and physicallly balanced, so do it and get back with us.
  • Nov 16, 2005, 12:42 PM
    Jenny4192005
    I don't think I will tell my mom until I find out and start showing... also... when I had sex it was like the day after my period was done.. is there a higher chance you can get pregnant a day after your period?
    :confused:
  • Nov 16, 2005, 02:05 PM
    megan12003
    Spotting
    I am having a similar problem. My periods have been changing a little the past few months. This month I am late 4 days and have been having extreamly light dark brown spotting ( Like a drop a day) for 3 days. I am not sure if this is premenstual or implantation. I have looked on 20 million websites and am not getting a straight awnser. Basically you can not trust urine tests, so You should probably go in a get a blood test. ;)
  • Nov 16, 2005, 05:02 PM
    letmeno
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jenny4192005
    Im 16 years old.. i started having sex when i was 13 so no this is not my 1st time.. i still havent had my period.... i really dont wanna go to the doctors because i dont want my mom to find out because she would flip... and also when they did the x-rays they didnt put anything over me i just laid on the table and they took the xrays... im worried that if i am pregnant that all the tests that i had done hurt the baby.... what should i do? i dont want my mom to find out... please help :confused:

    p.s. i always use a condom when i have sex but the last time i had sex i let him go in me since he had a condom on...atleast i think... and it felt really weird... like really warm.... when he busted in me... could that mean the condom broke??

    Finding out that her 16 year old daughter is pregnant is way more devastating than finding out that her 16 year old daughter is having sex. Of course it is upsetting to her to think that you are having sex, but give her the chance to do her job as a mother, and let her know about your ordeal so that you will never have another situation like this come about. I am 100000% sure that she will get over being angry and get you on birthcontrol. I hope that you are not pregnant, but go to a place such as planned parenthood so that they will give you a confidential pregnancy test that your mom does not have to know about. Please make sure this never happens again.
  • Nov 16, 2005, 05:02 PM
    letmeno
    Yessss!! It is very possible to become pregnant even if you have never had your 1rst period yet.
  • Nov 17, 2005, 07:08 AM
    Chery
    Responsibility..
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jenny4192005
    i dont think i will tell my mom until i find out and start showing.... also... when i had sex it was like the day after my period was done.. is there a higher chance u can get preg a day after your period?
    :confused:

    Jenny, listen to us, if you are PG and want to keep the baby, then get your mom involved, so that she can get over her anger and get used to becoming a grandma, also help you when you need it. This is a problem that will involve more than just telling her, she needs to make plans and adjustments too, so be fair to her and yourself, that's the first step in being RESPONSIBLE, and that word, my dear, is something you will have to get used to a lot from now on. Good Luck.
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  • Nov 17, 2005, 07:13 AM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by megan12003
    I am having a similar problem. My periods have been changing a little the past few months. This month I am late 4 days and have been having extreamly light dark brown spotting ( Like a drop a day) for 3 days. I am not sure if this is premenstual or implantation. I have looked on 20 million websites and am not getting a straight awnser. Basically you can not trust urine tests, so You should probably go in a get a blood test. ;)

    Hi Megan, you forgot to tell us how old you are... and you can also open the Pregnancy Basics document in post 9 here, it's not just for Jenny. Also, there is a site in the UK that's called www.askdramy.com - a UK doctor that has an online forum, and you can even ask her questions. So try that site. Then don't forget the "GOLDEN RULE" - when in doubt, always check with your doctor.
    Keep us posted.
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  • Nov 18, 2005, 08:57 AM
    Chery
    Megan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by megan12003
    I am having a similar problem. My periods have been changing a little the past few months. This month I am late 4 days and have been having extreamly light dark brown spotting ( Like a drop a day) for 3 days. I am not sure if this is premenstual or implantation. I have looked on 20 million websites and am not getting a straight awnser. Basically you can not trust urine tests, so You should probably go in a get a blood test. ;)

    Did you check the link in post #15? you can also check the links in the other posts here as they will help educate and reassure you a bit. Don't forget a doctors visit or a family planning clinic. Good luck and again, keep us posted.

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  • Nov 18, 2005, 09:17 AM
    Chery
    Jenny
    Letmeno is right. You might think we mom's are only there to give you rules and regulations, but we are only trying to help our dearest possessions, and that's our children. We are only loaned our kids until they are grown and leave us, but our love will always continue, no matter what. And the best reward a child can give mom, it to prove that she did her best by trusting her and going to her when a problem crops up. This gives us moms a purpose in life and helps to reassure that we did a few things right in raising you. Please reconsider talking to your mom, you might just gain more pride and reassurance from her than you know. Have a good weekend, dear, and hope things work out. Remember to keep us posted. If you want, we can write a letter to your mom, and you can print it out and give it to her only if you want...

    Chery
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  • Nov 19, 2005, 05:49 AM
    Jenny4192005
    Well...
    Well the brown blood has stopped... still haven't had my period... today's the 19th so I am 12 days late... the only thing I'm not liking is having to get up throughout the night and go to the bathroom and my jeans are starting to get tighter in the waist... I just feel really bloated... I'm going to go get a test probably today or tomorrow so I will keep you informed of what's happening... if the test is negative I'm going to have to get a blood test because I'm pretty sure that I'm pregnant... :confused:
  • Nov 19, 2005, 10:23 AM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jenny4192005
    well the brown blood has stopped... still havent had my period... todays the 19th so i am 12 days late... the only thing im not liking is having to get up throughout the nite and go to the bathroom and my jeans are starting to get tighter in the waist... i just feel really bloated... im going to go get a test probably today or 2morrow so i will keep u informed of whats happenin... if the test is negative im jus gona have to get a blood test bcuz im pretty sure that im pregnant.... :confused:

    After the tests, tell your mom. There are going to be a lot more 'inconvenient' things in store for you soon, if you are, so let her help you through this. Did you at least look at the sites we recommended? Putting things off and wishing them away are not going to help you at all at this point, dear, so you need someone on your side to help and your first choice should be your mother...

    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_17_3.gifDon't forget to tell the doctor about the x-rays you had without the apron..

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