To start, I'm relatively young. You'll probably need some background on myself. I was a very bad child. I jumped into life head first. The guy I'm currently talking to has been in my life since the first day I met him. He changed my life entirely. I really messed things up and it seems to be the only thing I can do anymore. He has this girl he talks to on the internet and he swears it's nothing but a pipe dream and that I have nothing to worry about. Him talking to her really bothers me, she made things really rough before, to the point where I was dating someone else. He came crawling back, telling me I'm the glue of his world and he's so sorry he never realized it before but like a month later I come to find he's talking to her again.

I told him how it bothers me and he just told me he doesn't know what to tell me, I try to ignore it. I figure that when things between me and him get better she'll just fade away, but I get angry, and I say things that imply him leaving and me moving away and he gets upset. Yet he still only says he doesn't know what to tell me. I don't know what to do. He means the world to me and I know we can make it through this, we've made it through so much worse then this.

I just need help, I need some guidance, wise words, anything. I'm not desperate, I'm pleading I just want to make it through this trial.

I'm speechless.

A "pipe dream" means your man wants someone else but it is a long shot...
You are "young" and were a "bad girl"...
So, you're life is a mess and you are with a guy who is not giving you true love.

You need:

A college education.
A good job.
A new man.

That's a lot.
Are you ready for any of it?
How old are you?
Are you doing these things?
Do something tough, and youmay be able to do something great - have a real life... it won't always be perfect but it will be A LOT better than what I sense in your life now.

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Originally Posted by brokensincethebeginning

To start, I'm relatively young. You'll probably need some background on myself. I was a very bad child. I jumped into life head first. The guy I'm currently talking to has been in my life since the first day I met him. He changed my life entirely. I really messed things up and it seems to be the only thing I can do anymore. He has this girl he talks to on the internet and he swears it's nothing but a pipe dream and that I have nothing to worry about. Him talking to her really bothers me, she made things really rough before, to the point where I was dating someone else. He came crawling back, telling me I'm the glue of his world and he's so sorry he never realized it before but like a month later I come to find he's talking to her again.

I told him how it bothers me and he just told me he doesn't know what to tell me, I try to ignore it. I figure that when things between me and him get better she'll just fade away, but I get angry, and I say things that imply him leaving and me moving away and he gets upset. Yet he still only says he doesn't know what to tell me. I don't know what to do. He means the world to me and I know we can make it through this, we've made it through so much worse then this.

I just need help, I need some guidance, wise words, anything. I'm not desperate, I'm pleading I just want to make it through this trial.

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The only one you can make things better for is yourself. If he will not respect you feelings, maybe he is not the man for you.

No one can change anyone but themselves. You have the power and choice to either stay or go.