This is not one of those usual stories where I get played and I can't get over a guy. Its more like me playing every guy. Ive never been in a long relationship before and I always play around with guys's feelings,which is a bad thing I guess. This is my first time being in a situation like this and I can't really get myself out of it :confused:

Anyway I have been dating this guy named Bryan(19yrs old,turning 20 in a month) for almost 3 months already and from what I found out about him he is a really good guy. For the past three months he comes to see me single day.. he bought me pretty expensive stuff for each one of our monthly anniversaries, and still I keep on being very controlling and I don't let him talk to any of his girl friends and it kind of bothers him. I get pissed about the smallest stuff and he always puts up with it. There is stuff he did that were actually reasonable to get pissed at and stuff I did for him to get pissed but most of the fights is because of him even saying hi to gilrs. He always tells me he loves me a lot AND I could see that he really does but I don't love him back and I know it, even though I tell him I loove him so muchh, all the time. Im attached to him since I've been seeing him every single day for this long and it feels weird not seeing him for a day but it is not love. Anywayss the problem is that, recently I've been talking to another guy (Michal,18yrs old turning 19 next year.) And I'm starting to have feelings for him too. I cheated on Bryan with him last night, which for the first time I feel really guilty about.
This has been going on for about a week,actually. Michal is a pretty good guy and I'm the first girl he actually cares about, according to him. Ive known him for about a year already,just didn't talk much. The first time I met him I liked him but I didn't really have a chance. So basically I've been wanting him for a while already and I'm finally getting my chance. He says and does stuff that Bryan never even thought of doing for me for the past 3 months. He calls me everyday to hang out and he doesn't even care that most of his friends don't like that.
They both also very VERY attractive.
Everything in my head is so mixed up and I don't know what I want or feel no more.
I want to stay with Bryan, but then I really really REALLY want Michal too. And knowing that I could have both of them makes it even more confusing.
When I kissed Michal last night he gave me a feeling, Bryan never did before. And just by touching me I get goose bumps. But on the other side me and Bryan have been through a lot already.
Another plus for Michal is that he is my nationality and Bryan isn't. I didn't have a boyfriend that's my nationality for Godd knowss how long and it feels pretty good to have someone to talk to in my language =]
Another thing that makes me want to pick Michal is that me and Bryan had this hugee argument today where it comes to a point of a break up but then again he is not breaking up and he keeps on trying to work on it.
The relationship I have with him is like my longest relationship,usually its like a week anniversary and I wanted to actually have something real and long with him.
:confused:
I Really like them both at this point :rolleyes:

what I was thinking is that I could go out with both of them at the same time, but then it wouldn't be real so that out of my list.
Then I was thinking of just writing their names on paper and without looking picking one but then it wouldn't really be fair. So the last plan I had is this Friday, to give a break to Bryan for 2 weeks and for those 2 weeks to be with Michal and then I would see how things go with Michal and it might be easier to pick one of them and I know for a fact Bryan would take me back(since I would tell him I need time to think about our problems)
But now that I'm thinking about it, if I would do that I would get even ore confused about everything,since I would be longer with Michal, so I don't know what to do anymore and how to pick since in my eyes they are both the same and I like them both the same.
The First thing they both do when they wake up is call me and they spent all dayy talking to me as much as possible and I love both of their personalities.
I don't want to do something ill regret... Pleaseee helpp :o

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Come onnn peoplee

Y isn't anyonee tryign to help?

I can see your reading it
Someone help me out pleasee

byron is your butler and you will never be happy with him. Using him for things is one thing I guess. His money, his time, his choice. Telling him you love him so much when you do not is mean. Yes, I know... he's a dumb boy with a wallet and the attention is nice. Then its just a race... does he buy a clue before he wastes another minute on a girl who doesn't sincerely love him or do you let the little pangs of guilt finally shame you into acting decently? Don't know who will win here.

the fact he dotes like this over you means he's still emotionally young and in too deep. You can probably play him for a long time until you get bored with the fights that are going to come up. But then, that's now... you are already getting bored with it and you already have one foot out the door, or on the bed, or the sofa, or wherever you were when you cheated. ;)

my grandmother used to say "girls are mean and boys are stupid"... how damn true is that. =)

so as for michal, he's the new toy on the block and maybe worth a look. Lets face it... you've already stepped out on byron and, like I said, you will never, ever be with him long term. Just cut the ties and let him start to get over you. Better for him to have to grow up a little and be more of a man than a butler than waste time in a relationship that just isn't going to last. He has some lessons to learn. Kind of mean just to string him along and you know it otherwise you wouldn't have posted.

and look... dating more than one person isn't "wrong" if all persons involved understand. I dated one girl who was absolutely fine with the idea of not being tied down in her young 20's. We didn't sleep around, but she knew she didn't have it in her to be looking for her husband when all she wanted to do was have some fun and get to know people.

just don't do it behind their backs. Okay? You owe it to them and yourself. You've already cheated. Don't know how good of a sign that is for michal... that he helped you cheat... and that he knows you are willing to cheat. Not the best first impression once the shiny and new wears off.

so the advice. Stop toying with boy toy #1. its mean. He should be smarter but he's not. Walk away cause its not ever going to work.

give michal a shot if you want. Be upfront and don't be afraid to take a chance. What's the worst that could happen? It doesn't work out? Fine. You move on.

And an fyi... I have a 20 year old daughter who went through this a little, in terms of having a "byron-type" butler... a guy who was nuts about her and doting and spending $. Shed push him away and then let him back in for a few months... hed take her out and buy things for her and she loved the attention...

There is nothing wrong with that...

But when it was clear he was head over heels in love and she was not... it just became hard to watch.

And so theyd hang out until she couldn't put up with his whining or she got bored and then theyd have a blowup fight. Repeat. Repeat. Finally... right when I was ready to tell him that he really needed to move on and be done with her, they finally went the other way. He got over her and she stopped feeling guilty for leading him on.

She wasn't evil. But she wasn't being nice. Its less work to be upfront and forward.

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Originally Posted by _Krissi_

This is not one of those usual stories where i get played and i can't get over a guy. Its more like me playing every guy. Ive never been in a long relationship before and i always play around with guys's feelings,which is a bad thing i guess. This is my first time being in a situation like this and i can't really get my self out of it :confused:

Anyways i have been dating this guy named Bryan(19yrs old,turning 20 in a month) for almost 3 months already and from what i found out about him he is a really good guy. For the past three months he comes to see me single day..he bought me pretty expensive stuff for each one of our monthly anniversaries, and still i keep on being very controlling and i dont let him talk to any of his girl friends and it kinda bothers him. I get pissed about the smallest stuff and he always puts up with it. There is stuff he did that were actually reasonable to get pissed at and stuff i did for him to get pissed but most of the fights is because of him even saying hi to gilrs. He always tells me he loves me a lot AND i could see that he really does but i dont love him back and i know it, even though i tell him i loove him soo muchh, all the time. Im attached to him since ive been seeing him every single day for this long and it feels weird not seeing him for a day but it is not love. Anywayss the problem is that, recently ive been talking to another guy (Michal,18yrs old turning 19 next year.) And im starting to have feelings for him too. I cheated on Bryan with him last night, which for the first time i feel really guilty about.
This has been going on for about a week,actually. Michal is a pretty good guy and im the first girl he actually cares about, according to him. Ive known him for about a year already,just didnt talk much. The first time i met him i liked him but i didnt really have a chance. So basically ive been wanting him for a while already and im finally getting my chance. He says and does stuff that Bryan never even thought of doing for me for the past 3 months. He calls me everyday to hang out and he doesnt even care that most of his friends dont like that.
They both also very VERY attractive.
Everything in my head is so mixed up and i donT know what i want or feel no more.
I want to stay with Bryan, but then i really really REALLY want Michal too. And knowing that i could have both of them makes it even more confusing.
When i kissed Michal last night he gave me a feeling, Bryan never did before. And just by touching me i get goose bumps. But on the other side me and Bryan have been through a lot already.
Another plus for Michal is that he is my nationality and Bryan isnt. I didnt have a boyfriend thats my nationality for Godd knowss how long and it feels pretty good to have someone to talk to in my language =]
Another thing that makes me want to pick Michal is that me and Bryan had this hugee argument today where it comes to a point of a break up but then again he is not breaking up and he keeps on trying to work on it.
The relationship i have with him is like my longest relationship,usually its like a week anniversary and i wanted to actually have something real and long with him.
:confused:
i Really like them both at this point :rolleyes:

what i was thinking is that i could go out with both of them at the same time, but then it wouldnt be real so that outta my list.
Then i was thinking of just writing their names on paper and without looking picking one but then it wouldnt really be fair. So the last plan i had is this friday, to give a break to Bryan for 2 weeks and for those 2 weeks to be with Michal and then i would see how things go with Michal and it might be easier to pick one of them and i know for a fact Bryan would take me back(since i would tell him i need time to think about our problems)
But now that im thinking about it, if i would do that i would get even ore confused about everything,since i would be longer with Michal, so i dont know what to do anymore and how to pick since in my eyes they are both the same and i like them both the same.
The First thing they both do when they wake up is call me and they spent all dayy talking to me as much as possible and i love both of their personalities.
I dont want to do something ill regret...Pleaseee helpp :o

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First you little mean person how could you baicaly cheat on them .any way go with michael he seems really nice and he would be lucky to have a girl like you and he knows it and just one q when you kissed michael did it feel like fireworks went off if so he is who you should be wit no matter what and I dout your he's actuly loved someone before so giive him a chance to dump bryan and go out wit michael