Well in the beginning of October two days after 4 months she broke up with me. Reason she says "because i never got to see you" She blamed me, when really it was her fault that she voluntered for weekend jobs. And well we have been talking since and stuff and right now she's dating another guy, but when we get off the phone with each other we tell each other I love you. And yesterday my friend was talking to her and I didn't even know about it and she was saying to him that she still wants to be with me. And so I ask, does she really truthfully love me?

I am kind of having the same problem with the guy I have been seeing. I love him but he is not there for me emotionally and I am ready to just give up on him and do some volunteer work and I wouldn't have time for him. It is hard but I feel like I try to be there for him and get closer to him and he acts like he really cares at times and other times he goes days acting like I don't even exist. I get tired of trying to read his mind about how he really feels cause he acts so indecisive like it is all up to me and then treats me like his friends are his priority.
She probably feels like she isn't sure how you really feel about her and doesn't want to go through the hurt of playing guessing games and feels that you will not open up to her about what you REALLY feel or want. IF you want her you need to be more assertive and
Let her know. Maybe, if you want her back, you could tell her you really care about her and would like another chance. That you realize that maybe you weren't being everything she needed, but you would like to discuss things and try to work it out and that you will try harder to communicate your feelings more.

You can love someone and not be happy with them. You can sense they are not the one for you and not quite know how to end it.
This may be her delima