Hey what should I do, my girlfriend broke up with me over a month ago like 5 weeks 2morow to be exact. So I posted a few things on different websites looking for people in different or similar situations. A few people from my neighborhood answer all females. And I met with a few of them in person. There is 1 in person and I stressed how much its just friends and all and she was 100% cool with that because it was she wants. Now we been out once or twice as friends, and I like her and I no it would never work but she has allot in common with me and I like her company. We seem like we get along well but we talk allot about our exs should I continue talking to her and all as friends or will it get worse. I was looking for friends cause I need a new circle but I don't know if I can be just friends with a female when I'm single lol. Does this make any sense at all??

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Originally Posted by chris28

Hey what should I do, my girlfriend broke up with me over a month ago like 5 weeks 2morow to be exact. So I posted a few things on different websites looking for people in different or similar situations. A few people from my neighborhood answer all females. And I met with a few of them in person. There is 1 in person and I stressed how much its just friends and all and she was 100% kewl with that because it was she wants. Now we been out once or twice as friends, and I like her and I no it would never work but she has allot in common with me and I like her company. We seem like we get along well but we talk allot about our exs should I continue talking to her and all as friends or will it get worse. I was looking for friends cause I need a new circle but I don't no if I can be just friends with a female when im single lol. does this make any sense at all???

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Hey hey. First, you can't talk to someone you don't know with Hey. But anyway :)
Second. What are you doing is only to fill your void. How much time did your relation lasted? If more than 6 months (even less but it depends), its called a rebound, and its not going to work.
Third point. She had an ex and you have an ex. And you talk about them. She needs someone to talk about her ex, and so do you. Does it sound like the relations begin this way? You both are bringing old baggage (I mean feelings about ex, doesn't matter positive or negative) in this new so-called relation. If not you, at least her. Cause when someone talks about an ex, for sure they are not over yet. Otherwise she may have told you, I don't like to talk about my ex at all, or something like that. Usually people wait a lot (months and even years, depends from the relation, and the hurts they used to experience) to let those feelings flee, and than they can think about a relation.

Friends are very important at times like these (and all times). She has said she just wants friendship you should respect that. And besides, I'm sure she has friends who you might meet through her that you COULD date.

Sounds like a great neighborhood. Be yourself and let her be herself. What lays ahead could be great.

This is true I tend to overthink everything and that's my downfall so that's what I will work on and meet more people..