I don't understand my husband at all. He don't tell me hardly that he loves me. Nor do we have sex very much. The only time that he seems to want me is when he starts talking about other woman. I don't know how to tell him how he makes me feel because when I have tried he just tells me that I am crazy. He likes to get on Yahoo and pick up girls ages 16 to about 28. He sit there rite in front of me and tells them how they are such hotties. I don't like it when he tells other girls that when he don't tell me unless I tell him how he never talks to me that way. He has cheated on me and told me about it a few times. When that's brought up he tells me he has never done it. Even though he has told me and came clean he acts like its OK. What do I do about this. If my husband isn't happy with me I wish that he would tell me so I don't have to stay around. I just want thing to be the way they were before we got married. He used to always tell me that I was beautiful. Now I have to beg him in a since. What should I do please help me I am going nuts in my head. Thanks :confused:

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Originally Posted by aarielgirl

I don't understand my husband at all. He don't tell me hardly that he loves me. Nor do we have sex very much. The only time that he seems to want me is when he starts talking about other woman. I don't know how to tell him how he makes me feel because when I have tried he just tells me that I am crazy. He likes to get on Yahoo and pick up girls ages 16 to about 28. He sit there rite in front of me and tells them how they are such hotties. I don't like it when he tells other girls that when he don't tell me unless I tell him how he never talks to me that way. He has cheated on me and told me about it a few times. When thats brought up he tells me he has never done it. Even though he has told me and came clean he acts like its ok. What do I do about this. If my husband isn't happy with me I wish that he would tell me so I don't have to stay around. I just want thing to be the way they was before we got married. He used to always tell me that I was beautiful. Now I have to beg him in a since. What should I do please help me I am going nuts in my head. thanks :confused:

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Leave, don't look back, do it now, it gets harder the longer you wait

He doesn't seem to think he is married. Hope you don't have children together as it looks like he is still looking. If you still want this man,get some counseling together, or you go if he won't. Your marige won't get better on it's own. Good luck, and better days ahead for you

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Originally Posted by aarielgirl

If my husband isn't happy with me I wish that he would tell me so I don't have to stay around.

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Personally I think he has 'told' you in every way but verbal. I wouldn't wait for the written invitation as it were. You deserve the world; don't settle for scraps. Good luck.

Take the initiative to Tell him!
He sounds like he is playing some childish game with you like indirectly rubbing your nose in the fact he isn't interested in you but doesn't want you to take it personal.
He wants to see how far he can push it before it really bothers you.
He also wants to take the easy way (like have his cake and eat it too) In other words he has it easy and convenient with you and doesn't want to upset the security he has with you but desires to dwell on what else he "might" have somewhere else. Tell him his second childhood is really childish.
Don't beg him because if he really isn't happy with you you are setting yourself up with false security. Like Mark realestate said leave, don't look back, do it now, it gets harder the longer you wait
So TELL him you are leaving because you DO NOT feel as though you have anything to stick around for. Or even just leave... N0 explanation.

Ya know.. he is seeing too many other women... he is miss behavin,' miss treating you and it is a miss take to continue. I might consider a miss demeanor and wallop him, or have the mother of all battles with him and show him the door. Lol I have too much time on my hands today, not to make light of your troubles.

Are you able to support yourself? Do you have a girl friend or family you can live with? Do you live in England? Do not cry, help will find you.

He's not going to come right out and tell you to leave. Deep down he probably doesn't want you to. After all you cook for him, clean his house, you give him what he wants when he wants it and he can still do what ever he wants... because he knows you won't leave. Question is, what do you want 'cause he's not going to change?

COunseling ASAP.

Action must be taken... So, he takes you seriously and sees syou might leave.

He's done it seems.

Did you marry young? Sounds like he wants to go back to that age.

Get a lawyer... or try counseling (long shot)

Sorry - but we'll be here.

No-one who loves you should treat you that way, and if he is trying to push you asway, then leave. Take control, be a powerful woman. He will regret doing that to you, but don't look back. Just think of that man who is out there waiting for you that you aren't meeting because you are stuck with him.

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Originally Posted by aarielgirl

I don't understand my husband at all. He don't tell me hardly that he loves me. Nor do we have sex very much. The only time that he seems to want me is when he starts talking about other woman. I don't know how to tell him how he makes me feel because when I have tried he just tells me that I am crazy. He likes to get on Yahoo and pick up girls ages 16 to about 28. He sit there rite in front of me and tells them how they are such hotties. I don't like it when he tells other girls that when he don't tell me unless I tell him how he never talks to me that way. He has cheated on me and told me about it a few times. When thats brought up he tells me he has never done it. Even though he has told me and came clean he acts like its ok. What do I do about this. If my husband isn't happy with me I wish that he would tell me so I don't have to stay around. I just want thing to be the way they was before we got married. He used to always tell me that I was beautiful. Now I have to beg him in a since. What should I do please help me I am going nuts in my head. thanks :confused:

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He told you in ways of actions.. so I would just break up with him before he does... it hurts less when you do it than him... when someone tells you that he wants to end it with you it is painful... you do what you have to do and listen to you gut feelings.. you can talk to him but what good does it do? They have to change themselves with time... no one can change no one... be strong.. dont waste time, things happen for a reason.. life always get better... good luck

As the saying goes, "You don't know what you got, 'Til it's gone"! From past experiences in a similar fashion, I say "Get Out!!" Your situation will never get better! It will only get worse! Statistically speaking, trust me! It never works!