I have been split up from my boyfriend of 2 years and have realised I can't live my life with out him. We have been through so much in this past 2 years, we have lost a baby and had romours about affairs. Things weren't very good in the last few months due to all this. I am really trying to get him back but he is saying that he doesn't know what to do. What can I do to prove to him that I want our relationship to work and that it is going to work. We don't know it won't unless we try.
I will be so grateful for any help as my life has been shattered and I honestly can't cope with out him
Thanks

Have you thought about going to counseling together? It might help both of you. Maybe if you get together and talk in a calm productive environment, you will be about to talk through some of your problems. It sounds like you have been through a rough couple of years. I am so sorry you lost a baby, what a horrible tragedy for both of you! I think talking to someone together will really help. Perhaps he will feel better about giving the relationship another chance once you have talked more. I hope this helps! Good luck!

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Originally Posted by peggyhill

Have you thought about going to counseling together? It might help both of you. Maybe if you get together and talk in a calm productive environment, you will be about to talk through some of your problems. It sounds like you have been through a rough couple of years. I am so sorry you lost a baby, what a horrible tragedy for both of you! I think talking to someone together will really help. Perhaps he will feel better about giving the relationship another chance once you have talked more. I hope this helps! Good luck!

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He won't talk, he just clams up. I have tried talking when we are in a neutral place, nothing seems to be working. We are spending a bit more time together now and he has stayed over. Would he do this if he didn't want me.

Well, it sounds like you guys do still care about each other. He's probably trying to deal with all the stuff that has happened recently. I would say just be there for him, keep trying to reach out, and let him know that you care about him. Maybe if you just give him some time, he will start to open up. I don't know if him staying over means that he wants a relationship right now, but at the very least, he wants to spend time with you, so that's a good sign. I hope you guys get back together!