Well me and my fiancé have been together almost 2 yrs and or relationship is okay well I've lied about sum stupid stuff and she found out but most of the lies where because I wasn't acting my age well lately I feel like she been on little dating sites and stuff like that she says anyone she talks to is just a friend but most times hell she won't even give me that type of time I want to stick wit it and marry her but I don't know if she's just staying with me for the right reasons I have never cheated on her or even got a girls phone number... and another thing what do I do if I go through her phone and see a guys number...

EEEEEEK!! DON'T GO THROUGH HER PHONE OR ANY OF HER PERSONAL STUFF INCLUDING HER EMAIL!!

Wow! If you want to mess this up big-time, that's the way to go!

Ok. You've lied. More than once, it sounds like. She isn't lying (yet), but (you think) she is keeping secrets from you.

What to do about that? The two of you should go to an unbiased person, like a minister or a counselor, and talk through this with each other. This is no way to be in a marriage, so you two have to hash this out now. You two have to figure out if you really want to take that serious step into a marriage.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

EEEEEEK!!!!!! DON'T GO THROUGH HER PHONE OR ANY OF HER PERSONAL STUFF INCLUDING HER EMAIL!!!!!

Wow! If you want to mess this up big-time, that's the way to go!

Ok. You've lied. More than once, it sounds like. She isn't lying (yet), but (you think) she is keeping secrets from you.

What to do about that? The two of you should go to an unbiased person, like a minister or a counselor, and talk through this with each other. This is no way to be in a marriage, so you two have to hash this out now. You two have to figure out if you really want to take that serious step into a marriage.

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We live together and I pay the bill on the cell so what you mean

So it's your cell phone too and you use it, or it was given to her for her own use?

I bought it for her so we can stay in touch while out of the house

And she isn't supposed to use it for anything else? Or she assumes it's now her own cell phone to talk with you or with a friend or with whomever?

I geuss I shouldn't care I know there's better men than me out there but I'm working on it I'm in the church hard trying to be everythang she needs she doesn't even have to work

Of course you should care! And now you and she have a baby together.

But snooping is not caring. You know that.

Do you have friends and family in the area?--a support group?

Yea I got family I really don't have to many friends anymore because I gave that all up to spend all my time with her and the boys and I see her family more than my own

Does her family seem to like you and are happy about the upcoming wedding?

Do you have a job too? What do you do? Where are you in school?

I'm about to start a new one I stopped working for one block to get through this class I go to school to be an aircraft mechnic her family loves me they treat me like fam and they were happy to hear the news

Good! I'm glad you are tight with her family. That's a good sign that they like you.

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Originally Posted by AYungman

Well me and my fiance have been together almost 2 yrs and or relationship is okay well i've lied about sum stupid stuff and she found out but most of the lies where because i wasnt actin my age well lately i feel like she been on little dating sites and stuff like that she says anyone she talks to is just a friend but most times hell she won't even give me that type of time i want to stick wit it and marry her but i don't know if shes just staying with me for the right reasons i have never cheated on her or even got a girls phone number... and another thing what do i do if i go through her phone and see a guys number....

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Hi all u can do is tell her how u feel n if your not happy wiith the ansewr do some investergating of your own to find some ansers