I met this girl about 2 months ago and withen the first week she asked me 2 move in with her and a week ago she asked if I would marry her. I love her also but I want to know if she loves me or if she is just moving to fast.

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Originally Posted by Romanticguy07

I met this girl about 2 months ago and withen the first week she asked me 2 move in with her and a week ago she asked if i would marry her. I love her also but i want to know if she loves me or if she is just moving to fast.

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First of all, you need to find out when she ended her last relationship and how long did it last. Secondly, if those results are acceptable, you need to find out her motive. Lastly, she may have fallen for you quick.

Can you give more background? There's never really a timetable for when two people are ready to get married, but you must know if you are ready. I it moving too fast for you? That's the question.

Look buddy.. even if she has fallen for u damn fast... a gal asking u to move in and to marry her in 2 months flat... have a relook. Tell her u love her and need sometime. Not to be sure of her but to be sure of urelf. Get to know her better. Talk to her a lot about your relationship with each other and why you both rock. Discuss concrete reasons and not just 'i can't take my eyes off u' stuff. I suggest give your relationship some time before the final plunge. Answers will come to u themselves.

Hehe, I know it strokes the ego for something like this to happen, and if you are lunatic romantic with a deep affection for drama in your life... then marry her today!

Or, use the good sense your momma gave you and keep things in order and in perspective regardless of what is SAID by either of you.

Would you let a perfect stranger of two weeks you weren't "in love" with move into your house? Probably not. So the same should go for people "talking" love... yourself included. Would you consider marrying someone you just met based on "in love feelings" alone? I certainly hope NOT!

Go rent the movie Single White Female. I'm not kidding. Go watch it. The nicest, coolest, sweetest, most loving people can turn out to be absolute nutcases... and you darn well better make sure you give them time to show you their nutiness!

My rule of thumb is 6-12 months to really SEE who a person is, 12-24 months to develop real bonds over and above anything having to do with "feelings"... at that point you can get married with a high assurance of compatibility.

So far, she doesn't sound nuts at all. <crickets>

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