Me and my husband are going through a hard time right now.. He doesn't want to spend time with me anymore.. He rather hang out with his friends are do other stuff without me. Things that we use to do together doesn't happen any more even if its just a ride to the store. I have a few guy friends who would love to hang out with me and give me the attention that I am dying to get from my HUSBAND but I know that it can lead to something else since these guys use to be prior boyfriends even though we are just friends now. Will it be wrong of me to go for the attention or just stay at home and get ignored and neglected by my husband??

Lol haha go out and have some fun. But don't get to carryed away..

And If you have to ask,you might look at your intentions,often we question our motives and we find they are not as wholesome or as needful as we would like then to be:(

Ken

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Originally Posted by n9182004

Me and my husband are going through a hard time right now..He doesnt want to spend time with me anymore.. He rather hang out with his friends are do other stuff without me. Things that we use to do together doesnt happen any more even if its just a ride to the store. I have a few guy friends who would love to hang out with me and give me the attention that I am dying to get from my HUSBAND but I know that it can lead to something else since these guys use to be prior boyfriends even though we are just friends now. Will it be wrong of me to go for the attention or just stay at home and get ignored and neglected by my husband???

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When you marry someone, you`re supposed to be with that person for life, and I think that you need to communicate with you husband so you can overcome these problems. Women have a tendency to nag, then the man pulls away to avoid more nagging.. As he doesn`t want to spend much time with you anymore, I can understand that it might be hard to sit down and have a proper talk, but you must do this. I think it sounds a bit strange to hang out with your ex boyfriends to get attention, you`re only asking for trouble!

It would be dangerous to hang with an ex, even if you don't do anything, you could be accused of cheating because you were alone together. Why not invite your husband out with you and a guy friend, and then yes, let the guy friend treat you well! Let your husband see that other men like you and appreciate you. He will remember how much he loves you and fear losing you, but he cannot accuse you of cheating, because he was there.

Hanging out with one's exes, while currently married, is never a good idea, especially if the situation is your being alone with them. On the other hand, unless you sit down and firmly communicate your feelings about the current state of affairs between you and your husband to your husband, then issues can't get resolved. This is particularly true if he's oblivious that there even is a situation to be concerned about. You really ought to have a good sit-down with him and discuss it before you consider going down a road that you really have no right to, since you are married.

3rd time that you have posted this question??

What you do with your thoughts is your own business. What actions you take can either strengthen you or diminish you.

I ask you, what are you doing now that you weren't doing before that is repelling your husband. Is your husbanr reading your body language and seeing in it your interest in former beaus?

Focus your attention on getting your charms to work with the guy you have. Leave the others in your past, where they belong.

Speaking from experience, it's not the way to go. If you are truly unhappy and there is not reconciliation to be had between you two, get out of the marriage... You obviously were not meant for one another, you can do much better, you deserve much better and there is someone out there who will be a better match for him as well. If two people weren't meant to be togther, there is no way of changing that. If you stay you will resent him and yourself. GL