When my man and I are just about to be getting into the mood its hard for me to be lubricated. He either has to go down on me or I have to play with myself. Why can't I just be ready when I'm ready?

You are normal. Most women don't get lubricated right away... it's a process with us ladies. If you want it to happen faster the best thing you can do is make sure you get yourself into the right frame of mind, if you catch my drift. Drinking your 8 glasses of water everyday won't hurt either. How much you lubricate also depends on which part of your cycle you are in; if you just got over your period chances are your going to be a bit on the dry side but when ovulation comes around the corner lubrication will not be a problem. After ovulation you usually hit a dry spell as well. This doesn't mean you cannot become sexually lubricated during these "dry spells"... it just takes a little piece of mind and some effort from both you and your partner. Like I said... if you put your mind in that sexual place if will help you along the way.

What Is Being Ready When You're Ready? Girl... that Is Totally Normal.
No Girl Can Just Sit Still, And Turn On The "wet Sensors" In Her. It's All About Foreplay Or Watch Porn Before Y'all Get Y'all Groove On!!

Normal as you can reasonably be... meaning there is no perfect normal. Some women can have lube issues even with extensive foreplay, some just need to mentally be ready.

My experience is that its almost always worth the time for the man to go down on the woman. I know it isn't always easy or practical... if you just want a quick "nooner" you just want to get things rolling. Well you know your own body. You simply have to plan on extensive foreplay or other means of lubrication.

My partner can get there without oral, but oral is almost always a part of our sex, since it's the best way to get her to orgasm consistently, it's the best way to get her naturally lubricated, and it's the most fulfilling way for her to experence intercourse. And, as a guy, I think natural lubrication is worth the time... the artificial stuff just doesn't feel the same throughout the whole process.

Is he complaining or feeling frustrated? Again, if I'm kissing my partner and she's self stimulating to get lubricated, I think it's a turn on... it means she's dropping all pretense and shyness cause she wants to get laid sooner than later. I know I wrote that kind of crude, but its still the truth and still sexy... I've never been threatened by her self stimulating.

And I've already said my opinion about oral. I think in a perfect world most men would spend more time learning how to get a woman off orally than they do worrying about intercourse. Its time well spent for BOTH partners in the end.