She loves me, but claims to love another.
Ok this is a severely screwed up situation and I have no idea what to do!
I've been with my girlfriend for near a yer but have known her longer. Before she was with me (months) the guy she was with basically used her. Now... We've been really great up to now, perfect almost. She met this guy at a party a little while ago and they ended up talking, and about what happened. He claimed he was too scared to commit etc etc so he left her standing in the dark (this was approx a 2 month relationship), not after he got what he wanted I hasten to add. She actually forgave him and decided to be friends. What am I to say? That's her choice, I don't have to like the guy right?
We were still really good after this point, but when we went on a weekend with a band (he was there) she changed dramatically... By the time we got back home she seemed so cold and distant caliming I pissed her off when I was drunk... No one else had a problem with me, I'm not a bad guy.
I apologised anyway and things seemed to get better. One day though, out of the blue she starts crying and saying how she still loved this other guy. I'm absolutely struck. I react rationally thoughm I'm understanding and supportive. We talk about it, she mostly talked to one of her friends. In the end she decided she wanted to be with me... Nice, now I feel like I was strung out on a line.
She's going through this "I love you, but sometimes I doubt it" phase. She tells me she doesn't want to know what life will be like without me, but she doesn't know if she'll feel the same in 5 years etc etc. She seems all confused right now. Likewise, I'm wondering what the hell is going on here! I talk to her , but she just tells me I don't understand or changes the subject. As it is I feel like I'm in limbo while she decides what she wants to do... I want to be there for her, but right now it's hard as hell. Iv'e prepared myself for all the eventuallities, right now I just feel like I'm hanging on.
What does a guy do?