Ask Me Help Desk - How to move on?

Well this is the first time I'm using this forum so hello everyone..
I've read a lot of other threads and other peoples pain and this is my story and I hope someone can help me.

Im 16, in high school (I know I'm young and all people say to me ohh its not the end of the world and you'll find someone better.. well how can they be so sure? And even though I'm 16 the pain is the same.) Mid last year in school I transferred to an advanced science class.. and I had met this awesome girl, she was the perfect girl, we were really close friends for about 6-7 months.. and during that time.. I was having a rough time in my life.. my parents split up.. I was just falling apart. I started hanging with the wrong crowd, started smoking and drinking and didn't care about school, and then this girl came into my life, she was like my god send.. she changed me, we got together about November last year and we were the model couple.. so in love, cared about each other so much.. never had any fights.. eveything seemed so perfect, no troubles and no worries all she'd talk about was the future and about me and her being together for a really long time.. then in August this year.. she broke up with me, she said to me that she had 'lost her feelings for me'. And she wants to remain freidns. It hurt a lot and I am still hurting..
People say 'ohh don't worry about it you'll find someone better' or they'll say 'you need to find another girl' they say all that like its so simple..

And if that's not hard enough I had a so called best friend who is like really close with her now and he is planning on taking her to the formal.

And its not easy moving on because I see her in school everyday, and she stills sits next to me in our classes together. I'm just so lost because I have absolutely no one else in my life there for me or who cares about me, she was all I had and now she has left me.

I just want to know what do to, to move on.. to feel better..
Can anyone please give me some insight.. can someone please guide me..
Can someone help me..

You are right, it doesn't matter if you are 17 or 37, the heart break hurts. You will see that a lot of other people have experienced this type of pain. I am going through it myself. You must focus on yourself now. Do things for you. Working out, running, are good ways to get your mind off it. It's not going to be easy, but it will get better. Tell yourself that you will be stronger than yesterday. Remember you are not alone. We are all here with you. Stay strong man.

needofhelp is right, the pain is devastating no matter what age you are and it seems we all get the same advice no matter our ages as well. I've been told the same thing like, you will find someone better or it will get better in time but time goes so slow and it seems like you'll never get through this. What I can tell you is although I'm not completely healed I am better then I was 3 months ago so time will help. I'm not going to tell you not to think about her because telling you that right now is like telling you not to breathe. It's impossible. I honestly still think about my ex more then I want to but I can say I can actually laugh at funny movies now and have a good time with friends which is something I couldn't do even 2 months ago. I call that progress even if its only a little bit.

I'm in the same situation as you are my 2 year relationship ended up 4 no reason and she went on saying that she still wants to be friends but the truth is how can you be friends with someone you truly loved and still have feelings for, they think (they can get the best of both worlds)... at least not for the time being.I went no contact AFTER two months of the breakup even bumping into her is hard (after all we live very close to each other which really sucks lol)wat I'm trying to say is that it will get better and the ex will realise what they have lost they might not say it but they will realise it.so go out have fun and take your mind off those headaches.. hope this helps bud

As long as you have contact with this person you will never be able to move on. I would suggest not sitting next to her for a start, ask your teacher to move you.

Its simple, say "I do not want to be friends, please leave me alone!"

Concentrate on your studies, there will be more women.

Dude your friends are right that there are better and finer girls out there but you just take your time have fun in the meantime .ask yourself this (I was happy before I met her and now once again I can be happy without her)

Hmm.. thanks for the help guys.. ill try to take all these things into consideration..
Hardest part for me is forgetting all the memories..

[QUOTE=needofhelp] You must focus on yourself now. Do things for you. Working out, running, are good ways to get your mind off it. QUOTE]

I have to quote this and emphasize. It's definitely very hard to let go but you really have to do things for yourself. Go to the gym, go for a long walk or a run, stay really close to friends and family. One I find really helpful is writing your thoughts down. When I feel alone, I just open word on my lap top and write until I just can't write anymore. Sometimes it's makes tears come or sometimes it just makes me mad to think why am I doing this and I suddenly move on and put my focus on to something more worth while. Writiting here is a great help. That's what I've found. Put your all your emotions into something you've wanted to do for a while. My brother went through a similar situation and he now has bulked up a lot because he bought a boxing bag and a weight bench. He also saved up his money and bought some musical instruments in which he uses to produce music. I hope this helps. It's not the best advice... but I find it feasible.

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Originally Posted by Kay-D

Well this is the first time im using this forum so hello everyone..
ive read alot of other threads and other peoples pain and this is my story and i hope someone can help me.

Im 16, in high school (i know im young and all people say to me ohh its not the end of the world and you'll find someone better.. well how can they be so sure? and even though im 16 the pain is the same.) Mid last year in school i transfered to an advanced science class.. and i had met this awesome girl, she was the perfect girl, we were really close friends for about 6-7 months.. and during that time.. i was having a rough time in my life.. my parents split up.. i was just falling apart. i started hanging with the wrong crowd, started smoking and drinking and didnt care about school, and then this girl came into my life, she was like my god send.. she changed me, we got together about november last year and we were the model couple.. so in love, cared about each other so much.. never had any fights.. eveything seemed so perfect, no troubles and no worries all she'd talk about was the future and about me and her being together for a really long time.. then in august this year.. she broke up with me, she said to me that she had 'lost her feelings for me'. and she wants to remain freidns. it hurt alot and i am still hurting..
people say 'ohh dont worry about it you'll find someone better' or they'll say 'you need to find another girl' they say all that like its so simple..

and if thats not hard enough i had a so called best friend who is like really close with her now and he is planning on taking her to the formal.

And its not easy moving on because i see her in school everyday, and she stills sits next to me in our classes together. im just so lost because i have absolutely no one else in my life there for me or who cares about me, she was all i had and now she has left me.

I just wanna know what do to, to move on.. to feel better..
can anyone please give me some insight.. can someone please guide me..
can someone help me..

Well you need not to forget but there are better things in life you know throw or give back the stuff she gave you and then start a new relationship witch is totally your choice but you know if you do get another girl don't get to attached you know just let her help you forget the other gilr and move on! ♥♥

Thank you guys so much for the advice. Finally found people who can understand what I'm going through.. I'm going to try to all that you guys have said to.. and try moving on..
But it does indeed take time right?

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Originally Posted by Kay-D

Well this is the first time im using this forum so hello everyone..
ive read alot of other threads and other peoples pain and this is my story and i hope someone can help me.

Im 16, in high school (i know im young and all people say to me ohh its not the end of the world and you'll find someone better.. well how can they be so sure? and even though im 16 the pain is the same.) Mid last year in school i transfered to an advanced science class.. and i had met this awesome girl, she was the perfect girl, we were really close friends for about 6-7 months.. and during that time.. i was having a rough time in my life.. my parents split up.. i was just falling apart. i started hanging with the wrong crowd, started smoking and drinking and didnt care about school, and then this girl came into my life, she was like my god send.. she changed me, we got together about november last year and we were the model couple.. so in love, cared about each other so much.. never had any fights.. eveything seemed so perfect, no troubles and no worries all she'd talk about was the future and about me and her being together for a really long time.. then in august this year.. she broke up with me, she said to me that she had 'lost her feelings for me'. and she wants to remain freidns. it hurt alot and i am still hurting..
people say 'ohh dont worry about it you'll find someone better' or they'll say 'you need to find another girl' they say all that like its so simple..

and if thats not hard enough i had a so called best friend who is like really close with her now and he is planning on taking her to the formal.

And its not easy moving on because i see her in school everyday, and she stills sits next to me in our classes together. im just so lost because i have absolutely no one else in my life there for me or who cares about me, she was all i had and now she has left me.

I just wanna know what do to, to move on.. to feel better..
can anyone please give me some insight.. can someone please guide me..
can someone help me..

Dear act like you've already moved on , then try to really believe it and every thing will be OK . Try searching for replacements of every thing you lost and every thing will be OK since you believe that there are people around you who love you and will be there for you any time stick to them they will support you