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  • Oct 25, 2007, 06:05 AM
    littleblondegirl
    Men and strip clubs
    My boyfriend is great. He looks after me and we are building a home together. All fine and dandy. Sex is great, life is fab. I'm happy in this relationship. I find trust really hard because of past experiences and right now he is with some friends spending a few days in amsterdam. Today he called to tell me that they were going to a strip club later. He was honest. He asked me to trust him. It just makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. I hate the idea of him staring at lots of naked women. I know he loves me. Am I reacting normally? I wouldn't stop him from going in my effort to trust him. He doesn't go to things like that unless it's a stag do which are few and far between. Should I trust him?
  • Oct 25, 2007, 06:26 AM
    shygrneyzs
    Based on what you said and where he is, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. There is not anything you can do but trust him right now.
  • Oct 25, 2007, 06:50 AM
    Stringer
    I agree w/ Shy, he told you the truth about where he is going.

    Whether he should be going is another issue, sometimes peer pressure is tough though and maybe that is the case here? I do like the fact that he told you.
  • Oct 25, 2007, 09:06 AM
    bskinner57
    I think you should trust him. He was honest enough to tell you in the first place. He could have just gone, and never said a word.
  • Oct 25, 2007, 09:14 AM
    Synnen
    Do you read romance novels? Can you tell the difference between the hero of a romance novel and your real-life great guy?

    What makes you think HE can't tell the difference between some girl dancing naked and his real-life great girl?

    There are many many women who have issues with their guy going to a strip club or looking at porn. Obviously, I'm not one of them. YOU have to decide what's right in YOUR relationship, but honestly--if he's coming home to you, and everything is great, then where is the problem?

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