Hey guys,

I am here fr some advice,

My partner and I of 4 years had just prevesouly just broken up, well he broke up with me to be specific, we always used to argue, we used to argue over stupid things, over him telling me a women was good looking, I used to be so jelious, all about jeliousy pretty much, I'm 23 and I have been through allot in my life, I lost myself through out this realationship and forgot about me and wasn't looking after myself and I wasn't feeling beautiful, I was insecure within myself, but ever since we have broken up, I have realised these things, and I have realised that he does love me for me and wants to try and make things work, I have realised my mistakes and same goes for him.

No the main question I am saking here is we are back together but taking things slow!!

So slow meanig what!!


Not talking everyday

Seeing him 1 or to a week

Im really not sure how this takings slow works.

Can somebody please fill me in.

I think its GREAT you guys are "taking things slow". It's important for everyone to have some time to let things soak in, get your emotions in check, and really think about things. For you, all the more important. You guys broke up for a reason, and it's great you are giving it another shot, but you need to take things slow so you don't fall back into the bad patterns that lead to your break-up in the first place. You guys need to learn how to communicate better with one-another, and you need to get your jealousy issues in check. Take it slow, so you guys can learn why you got together in the first place. Not talking everyday is good, and also not seeing each other all the time is good too. It keeps the other person on your mind, and lets you miss them... that in turn makes seeing each other that much more special. "taking it slow" is different for everyone, so however much time you guys need is up to you both. I say keep it fresh for at least a month or so, and work on your communication so you don't fight as much.

Hey guys, I need some advice on how to handle all of this that is going on right now, I feel like I have hit deprresion, I fell down, I don't have modivation to do anywhere nor see my gf's, my man of 4 yrs broke up with me 1months and 4 days ago LOL, we have spoken a little and he said he broke up with me so I can figure myself out, he said that I was always down and always complaining about myself, I have a low self esteem and I really want to fix it, also I have lost a lot of weigh this past month I am very skinny, I feel that everythings going wrong for me, even though he said we are sort I'm his and he's mine sort of thing, but he hasn't asked me back out as yet, I am 23 and he is 26 he's also planning on going to europe next year as well which he just told me a week ago while we are on this break, I thought that was abit stupid, might as well kik that out of me and then throw a cheepy in as well, mad eme feel a lot worse.

He also said that if we get back together things are going to change, he said when ever he wants to go with the boys he will there's no me stopping him, he said that I have to charge of the realastionship for ronce, he said we will see each other when we are both free, this is hard for me because ei am so used to seeing him 3 times a week and spedinghte weekend with him, and I am afraid that if we get back things are totally going to change. I'm really scared. I need to build up confidence and be happy and live my life too, I just can't handle this stress. Can anybody help me with this.