OK so some one please help me.. I am a Straight A student and I work my but off in school. For homecoming my mom decided this year that she is not going to spend money on me. She veiws homecoming as "you are only going to where your dress once" Well I'm so pissed off because I don't want to look like a slob. I know we can afford to buy a nice dress , etc. But this is where I nned help. She actually expects me to do for her. After she refuses to buy me a dress and makes my life a living hell she expects me to clean my room and etc for her. I just bring the homecoming situation up w/ her. I don't get it. I work so hard in school and in sports... I seems like I get absolutley no credit. What the heck should I do!

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Originally Posted by surfluver1212

ok so some one please help me..i am a Straight A student and i work my but off in school. For homecoming my mom decided this year that she is not going to spend money on me. She veiws homecoming as "you are only going to where your dress once" Well im so pissed off b/c i dont want to look like a slob. I know we can afford to buy a nice dress and etc. But this is where i nned help. She actually expects me to do for her. After she refuses to buy me a dress and makes my life a living hell she expects me to clean my room and etc for her. I just bring the homecoming situation up w/ her. I don't get it. I work so hard in school and in sports...i seems like i get absolutley no credit. What the heck should i do!

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Are you sure you are the perfect little angle you are making yourself out to be. Try and talk to your mom. Maybe she has a reason for not buying the dress. Ask her if you can pay a part of it. Hope you can get a dress. I think homecoming is a big deal.

Not only do I not believe you are a straight A student because of all the spelling mistakes, but I also get the feeling that you need an attitude adjustment.

Of course you cheerfully clean your room -- plus you cheerfully do your own laundry, fold it, and put it away where it belongs; you cheerfully help with cooking and baking and cleaning up; you cheerfully do whatever chores need doing, like vacuuming, dusting, floor washing.

If you were my daughter, you wouldn't even be thinking of going to homecoming. No. Wait. Stop. If you were my daughter, you wouldn't have posted what you did because you would have been too busy living a genuine life.

Me and my mom don't really get along... she has an opinion on everything... I wish me and her could be friends. Whenever I tell her something she will later on use it against me. I don't have the time to do all this done that she needs. And the paying for part of it part is kind of impossible because I have no money! This is my first homecoming and I'm about to go turn my ticket in!

What does she want you to do?

When is homecoming?

I hope you get to go, regardless. Maybe you can borrow a dress from someone are you tickets paid for?

Your mother does not have to buy you a new dress if she does not see the need, and she doesn't have to do it even if she can afford it. What if you only think she can afford it?
You do well in school because you should, not to use a leverage to get what you want, and you keep your room clean not for her, but because you live there and it's part of the responsibility of living in a household.

I do agree it sounds like she needs some adjusting in the attitude dept. and no she shouldn't expect things for doing well in school now. Her doing well in school now will perhaps lead to her going to a good university and getting a degree and good career. Then perhaps she can buy her daughter everything she (her daughter) THINKS she HAS to have.