Wow, how to get this started. I've been dating someone for 4 years and we just moved in together. I found some reasons to believe that he is into phone sex (not with me but 800/900 numbers) and he keeps a file (recent and updated) of escort services in our local area? HELP! I stumbled on this stuff purely by accident and feel so hurt I can't stand it.

To me escort services would be a deal breaker.

Yes its probably that simple but do guys keep that stuff around for fantasy, or only keep something like that if they are using it? I know I may sound dumb but so much is at stake.

While I would say it all is bad, escort ( hookers) are something that should not be acceptable.

Well, it's always better to come out and say something about it... He'll probably come up with some lame excuse, and if he does--he's not worth your time. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Just please do YOURSELF a favor... if he starts to give you some sort of lame explanation, and your brain knows it's a lame explanation, DON'T take him back!! Just walk away, unless you like the idea of getting screwed over from here on out by him... I know that sounds mean, but sometimes you just have to stick up for yourself or you'll always be a doormat. Once you get beaten down, it's hard to get back up again, and many women never do--it's always something simple that starts an abusive relationship. And that goes for not only physical abuse, but emotional as well.

I hope everything works out for you! Keep your chin up... :)

I would kick him to the curb! Sex can be an addiction for some people. I would advise him to go to counseling, but I wouldn't wait around for him. You should get a physical to make sure he hasn't given you and STDs. If he has been sleeping around on you, you could also be at risk for the human papilloma virus. (I hope I spelled that right). Get out of the relationship, and get checked by a doc just to be safe. You deserve better. Hope everything works out.

If your sure of this guy's M.O. then quietly and pleasantly run.