The Total Guide to Winning Back Your Ex
Here are the steps:
1. WIN BACK YOURSELF
He/She left you, dejected, sad, with a huge void in your life. Basically you are flooded with all this extra time on your hands now. Time which everyone spends moping, crying, missing, feeling like crap. So the first thing to do, do WHATEVER IT TAKES to fill the void. STOP FEELING LIKE CRAP. No one wants to date CRAP. It's YOUR JOB to stop feeling like crap. Only YOU can help yourself.
2. FEEL THE PAIN
It's okay. Break-ups suck. There is pain involved. Don't avoid it. FACE IT. It's part of life. Sometimes life's ire, sometimes life's not. Can't run from the bad and only expect the good. GET OVER IT your own way, in your OWN TIMELINE. DO NOT EXPECT THE EX TO HELP. It's your ex. Ex them COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE. Maybe you just don't want to be around people because you feel like crap. Ok. Go for a drive, go to the gym, go for a jog. Don't put pressure on yourself to GET OVER IT. You will, at your own pace. Just keep chugging along. IT GETS BETTER.
3. I WANT TO CALL/SEE THE EX
NO, you really don't. They suck. They left you. THEY ARE WHY YOU FEEL LIKE CRAP. WHAT THE EX DID WAS NOT NICE. IT WAS A NASTY THING TO DO. Did you cheat on them, did you treat them badly? No? Well then, IT IS THEM AND NOT YOU! You want to date someone who is similar to you right? Would you just up and leave someone? No? Well, then you WERE DATING THE WRONG PERSON. Good riddance! THEIR PERSONALITY IS NOT LIKE YOURS. And what's the most important thing in relationships? PERSONALITY'S WHICH BLEND. And if you did treat your ex badly, OK, we make mistakes, and we learn. But THEY ARE THE EX. EX THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
4. WILL I EVER MET SOMEONE AGAIN
No you won't. Oh wait, that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Of course you will. Why wouldn't you? You met the EX somehow right? But you won't meet anyone new until you take care of STEP 1.
5. I JUST SAW THE EX, AND I DIDN'T CARE, I'M ME AGAIN
Sweet. And you shouldn't care anymore. It's NOT about winning them back. It's all about STEP 1-4. That's what matters, not THE EX. So yeah, you PROBABLY WON'T win him/her back. But damn, that hot chick/dude at school/work/gym was giving you the eye. And now you're back to being the total stud/debutante you were BEFORE you met the ex. FEELS GOOD doesn't it? Let's see if the hot chick/dude wants to go out.
It does happen this way. Forget about winning them back. The future is more interesting then the past. But you won't see the future, if you keep looking back.
--Cali
