I have been dating this woman for about 9 months and she had just gotten divorced and we started seeing each other she just broke up with me and I am so much in love with her and she says that she is with me too but that she isn't over her ex yet. When we started dating I promised her that if we broke up that I would still be friends with her son and I would still love him and I do like he was my own. Am I crazy for wanting to still be with her and still loving her? And does any one recommend some one to talk to in midcoast Maine? I am having a very hard time

Sounds like she needs some space to heal emotionally. You sound like a great guy to care about her son. Tell her that you are there for her as a friend until she is ready for something more. You could contact a religious organization, a community center, a local counselors office, or a mental health clinic if you need someone to talk to. Check your local paper, there are often support groups for people dealing with depression and/or people who are depressed about ended relationships. Talk to a family member, a co-worker, or a neighbor. I'm sorry you are hurting. Hope this helps.

More details? Age's long distance? Social groups ?

Mainboy what the hell are you talking about mad? All I asked for was more details.. And you bad rep me saying your not mad? First of course you are, you were broken up with second more details...

crushedovernover I think mainboy thought your Sig was the rest of the message to him


Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

She is 36 and I am 32 the son is 14 we live in the same small town and have some of the same friends

The only way to get her attention is to to absolutely nothing.

Divorcées require lots of space.

Click on my Guide below. It has helped people in your situation before.

Get out of town for a while if you can.

And leave her be -