Hi Guys,

I'm a newcomer and I would like to share this story with you!

I'm 22 years old and I've been in a relationship for nearly 5 years. My boyfriend and I are really happy together and planning to get married next year. These last 2 years, I met an old friend with whom I always had some sort of infatuation but after all these years it seems that we are just close friends..nothing else!

Sometimes, we decide to go for a walk together, my boyfriend knows this because we trust each other. Lately, I noticed that I am starting to feel emotionally in love with him. He told me that he's gay but last week he asked me to give him some of my 'sexy' pictures and he's all the time saying sweety, dear, darling and that I am a really cute girl etc..

I don't know if this is a friend thing or there is more than just being friends. From the other side, I love my boyfriend very much and I know that if I fall for this guy, it would just be one of my stupidities. He never told me what his feelings for me are! Why is this happening to me? He's a very nice guy and I surely don't want to lose a good friend.

Thanks for viewing my story. I appreciate it if you send me your feedback as this is worrying me day after day. :(

If he told you he is gay, he is probably gay. Maybe you feel like you connect with him in a different way than you do with your boyfriend. Is it easier to talk to him about certain things? You probably will not have a relationship with your friend, but you can have a great friendship. Maybe he was joking about the sexy pictures, or maybe he didn't mean for it to sound like he was into you. I don't think he would tell you he was gay unless he really is. Make a list of all the things about him that infatuate you. Then make a list of everything you like about you boyfriend. Maybe you feel that you can communicate freely to him because there is no pressure of being in a relationship. I have a close friend, Sean, who is a gay guy and I feel like I can talk to him about things I don't want to talk to my boyfriend about. I feel like I can get a guy's opinion without worrying that he is lying to me because he likes me in that way. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, but I wouldn't talk to him about some things I talk to Sean about. Look at the bright side, you have a great boyfriend you want to marry and a great guy friend too. Maybe you are feeling a little bit bored with your boyfriend after being with him for 5 years. That happens to a lot of people, you just have to try to reconnect with him. Hope this helps.

I agree with peggy. It is a lot easier to talk to gay people believe it or not! I think it's cause we boarder line on the genders mentally so then we can talk intamently with each gender (or goof off... every guy who knows me knows that he can call a girl hot around me or something and I won't think he's a perv... I'LL PROBABLY AGREE! ). As for the sexy pictures I know a few gay guys and I mean out there fashion-esta gay guys, and they are into pictures like that because it's a fashion thing to see different poses. Maybe he wants to go into fashion? I also have to agree with peggy in that if he says he's gay... he probably is because I only know one guy who will call himself gay and when he says it... he does it to make me laugh... (he's a good friend of mine and if we are in debs he will start putting stuff up to himself going "does this make me look fat???") So stick with your man! You have a 5 year relationship going with this guy... and he loves you!!

Good luck to you ^.~