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Freshman/Senior dating

Is it okay for a freshman(in highschool) to date a senior?

I'm good friends with a lot of seniors at my high school through teams and such and I guess people consider me to be mature for my age.

I know that some people might answer this question by saying that senior guys are only looking for one thing: sex. And that I should just stay away.

Cut that out of the equation. I am perfectly capable of keeping my pants on.

I just want to know if you'd find it acceptable for a freshman to date a senior.

I actually think that its your choice I'm in a similar situation like I'm 14 and the guy I like is 18 but evry one on here says he is 2 old and wants one thing but if I was you go 4 it.. that's what I'm doing.
Take a chance if it changes your life let it..
You will never know how it will turn out if you don't try it...
Hope I helped xx

I think it is OK. But it is completey up to how you feel about the whole thing. Just give a try and FRESHMAN are so lucky to date SENIORS. I'm a senior and I know when I was a freshman and I dated a senior I felt lucky lol
Good Luck

When I was a freshman I dated a senior. No one gave me too many problems about it. I think its absolutely okay, as long as you set boundaries. Make sure both of you know how each other feel about things like sex and so on and so on. A lot of times when freshmen and seniors date, the relationship doesn't last because the two of them have different perspectives on things, cause the senior would have more experience in handling things. Its just a matter of maturity I think. Anyway, like I said, as long as you guys have a similar mind-set, things should be fine.

Speaking as a mom, I would have to say it depends. It would depend on my appraisal of my child's maturity level and it would also depend on my impression of the young man.

From experience I'm telling you it's a bad idea.. I dated a senior when I was a freshman.. its like you like the person but it's a wrong time type of ordeal. We dated for three years.. he graduated when I became a sophomore and things were good at first.. he went off to college though so it became a long distance relationship.. I wanted to hang out with my friends and enjoy high school.. but I found myself with him more than I was with my friends. I say.. don't date in high school.. go out.. have fun.. save the commitment for college or beyond.. but you know that if you want to go for it badly enough you will.. then it will be a live and learn type of situation. If you think a guy is that important then go for it I suppose, but don't be surprised if the timing in the relationship ends up to be a major problem.

It depends on who the guy is what he's like and how mature you are. And to keep him out of a lot of trouble a parents consent. I know that its compeltely amazing when you get attention from a senior... but the only thing you need to keep in mind that seniors are a lot more experienced... not only in the sex department... more than anything it's a personal choice... the only thing I can say is be careful... and discuss things like sex and all that before hand... that way no signals are misread...

I don't think it's a big deal. I'm 15 almost 16 and last year was my freshman year and I dated a senior, it will be a year on June 30th. Sure my parents didn't approve especially since it was my brother's friend but they eventually got over it. Ladies, just know what you're doing. <3

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Originally Posted by frankyy

I don't think its a big deal. I'm 15 almost 16 and last year was my freshman year and I dated a senior, it will be a year on june 30th. Sure my parents didn't approve especially since it was my brother's friend but they eventually got over it. Ladies, just know what you're doing. <3

If your still with this person they should be lawyer shopping now because they can be arrested at any time.

To me I think it's fine to date a senior when you're in your freshman year. You just got to be careful about older boys because they have more tricks up their sleves then younger ones and just a portion of them only think about sex and will try to get it from anybody. If you do jump in a relationship with a senior make sure he knows your boundaries so he knows not to cross it. Also take things slow so you won't send off any mixed signals about sex which could jeopardize you guys relationship. Keep in mind don't just jump in a relationship not knowing that guy because you may find out something later on down the road that you wish you would have known earlier.

Hoped I helped!!

Well I'm confused.im sorry but I have a question too.this senior asked me out.he is a sweetheart,and is not in it for sex or anything like that we've talked about it already.but the problem is that he is really clingy and well he ALWAYS wants me to hang out with him. I like him I really do but it gets annoying sometimes and when I try to tell him to give me a little space he gets mad about it.we're not even officially going out but I don't know what to say to him I really don't.what should I do?

@overthinker_17

Don't do it. Seriously. If he's getting upset because you don't want him around constantly before you're going out, it's a bad sign. I'm not saying he's a bad guy or anything. He's either at risk of being abusive in a relationship OR he just doesn't know what he wants in life yet even though he probably thinks he knows. This is a common problem at your age (I used to be this guy!).

I would avoid a serious relationship with him right now. For a guy who is probably not THE guy, it will be very stressful.

I like a senior a lot, and I've been waiting for the prefect person and this person is completely my type and so perfect for me, but he's a senior and I'm a freshman. IDE ONLY EVER DATE HIM because of how perfect he is for me. So, if you don't like him enough to make it work, then don't go out with him.

I can't safely say it's okay because from my own experience, it was tough and in the end the guy left me for a junior girl. But don't fret; it can work out. But you have to make sure beforehand that he's a good guy and check his actions so you'd know if he's only after one thing--your body. But like they say, love has no age limitations. You just have to know what you're entering. Good luck! :)

I think theirs nothing wrong with it as long as your able to have a mind of your own and know what type of guy he is. A good guy or a jerk ! And if he's really a senior and is mature he wouldn't try to be on kid games like have sex when your not ready he will understand

Go For itt! Don't Be a sissy like mee.. And Do itt.. Cause If you really like himm.. And Likes You it shouldn't matter.. Unlike Me.. Im afried To say anything to the guy I like... </3

I high school everyone to me is about te same age, your becoming an adult and then age doesn't aply

Not necessarily. In some states they have certain laws where you have to be 16 to legally date someone 18 or older. Plus you don't know how old the senior was. He couldve very well been 17.