I lost my virginity 7 years ago and I never had an orgasm . After I separated from my husband I start buying adult toys they seem to work ,but now I am with someone and I wonder if he gets insulted in any way if I ask him to bring my toy into our bed , other wise I won't have and orgasm.

Tell him-more guys understand than what a lot of women think. Not all of us are unfeeling Cro-magnons.

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Originally Posted by Xrayman

tell him-more guys understand than what a lot of women think. Not all of us are unfeeling Cro-magnons.

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Agreed. I would tell him that that makes you happier and he will most likely understand what you mean. If he doesn't then maybe you guys could work together to find a compromise?

Sorry but, I think that's going to hurt the guy to invite the toy to bed...

I am sure he would be thrilled to play with the toys.
You just don't have to explain everything :"other wise i won't have and orgasm"
That's just unnecessary:)

Tell him... but reasure him that it has nothing to do with anything that he's done wrong... it just simply is what it is and you won't orgasm otherwise

Be honest but not brutally honest. Tell him that you have some toys you want to show him and let him play.

It would be nice if he cared enough to figure out how to do what your toy does. Try using it as a teaching tool. I'd want to find out why I get joy from a toy and not the real thing.

You should be "Up Front" and "Honest". It is something you enjoy very much and you should talk to him about it! If you have a strong relationship with him... I am quite confident he will have no problems with it. Honesty is the main ingredient though! It goes a L O N G way! Give it a try!

U know I thought about your question again and the better response should have been give up the toy! It's actually very similar to guys jerking off too much and getting used to it that they don't orgasm during sex anymore. So the toy is actually the problem . If it is to be brought into the game it must be for extra fun but not a necessity for you to reach an orgasm otherwise the problem is not how to tell your bfrd about it but rather how to get off without a toy! Well unless it's a huge toy and your anatomy requires a certain size or shape that is. It could also be a psychological thing have you thought about it this way?
So anyway why don't u update us , what did you do in the end??

Tell him. I find it's fun to use lots of toys... it should be fun...

I don't think you should give up on your sexuality! You haven't found your sexual passions, or you are blocking out stuff.

Would it surprise you to know that some women can have an erotic thought and have a fantastic orgasm within 30 seconds?

I think it would be worth your while to invest in sex therapy so you can find your human passions. That would be a gift to yourself that would last a lifetime. :)

Ask him, if he ain't into it and leaves, you still have your toy.