Hello! My boyfriend and I live in Virginia we are 20 and 21. He has a 3 year old daughter from a fling he had briefly before we started dating. We went on our first date before she even knew she was pregnant. After having a crush on my boyfriend for years before I even came in the picture, there child has become her way of making him choose between the child and me. He's really upset that she won't let their child come to our home. She has dragged him through soooo much in the last 3.5 years. The Guardian Ad Litem for the child goes with everything that the mother says. Her current boyfriend has been in jail for possessing drugs and firearms that were not registered. She lives in low income housing and has anyone and everyone watch their daughter before he can get her. We've called on numerous occasions and have been denied the right to see a child that they share joint custody of for whatever excuse she can come up with. We live together in a nice neighborhood with a home that we own and the GAL is suggesting to the court that his visits be somewhere else. What do they expect him to rent a hotel room to keep his child in? Move out? I have never been in any trouble and neither has he. We are trying to have a baby of our own how will this affect the courts decision. How can I prove that I am not going to endanger the child as the mother claims? The child and I have spent a lot of time together she likes me, but he mother just can't get over it.

How can he get his visitation in our home?
How can I prove that I'm not a danger?
Will the mother still be able to say that she can't come around me when our children are siblings?
What about her boyfriend?
Can you get a new Guardian ad litem appointed to your child if you feel they aren't doing what is actually best for the child?

She is just trying to make our lives hell but she's only hurting the child who really loves her father and spending time with me, why are we the only ones who see that she is only being used and that her mother and the courts have no reason to deny him the right to spend time with his daughter in his own home, our home!

I just wanted to let you know that my sister and her husband along with their two kids are going through the same thing. I just called her and read what you typed and she said almost down to a tee from the brief moment he had with this girl before you two started dating to the whole bunch of excuses even hording the child off on others and her boyfriend. Watching my sister and her family go through this hurts so much. I know my sister is a wonderful mom because she was the provider for me and my two twin brothers since I was 15 and they were 10 and is been 14 yrs already. I guess I can give you an answer, continue to be you, don't change and eventually you will get thick skin and everything surface. Oh the best thing is to remain by your boyfriends side, he needs your strength and good luck on the baby!