I am seeing a girl for 3 yrs now, VERY controlling. Will not come to my house, if I want to see her or make this work I have to go there. She won't answer my calls or texts if she doesn't want to, or reply to my I love yous. It if she feels like it, I've been getting feed up with this and last night she tried to tell me as long as I'm there ill go to bed when she does, which is midnight or later, now giving me a bed time. This is just a tid bit of crap. But I went home and today she hinted that she don't thinks she likes me or loves me, I said OK and haven't replyed to her texts, she's writing saying how I'm unhappy and its my fault. Any thoughts?

Any thoughts?. Yup, plenty.

1. I think you are better off without her.
2. I think you don't need another 'mother'
3. I think she wants a kid to command around and not more.
4. I think that she is not the one to determine whether you are happy or not.

Need I think or say more?

You deserve a lot better, and that you probably won't really need much time to heal and get over her.
But if you feel you need more time and advice, stay with us and we'll help you all that we can.

C.U. on the forum, and keep your head up.

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I agree, its funny how controlling people will turn everything around, so will her texts keep coming, its like the longer I don't reply the more control she loses and makes her mad. I always went back crawling, about 40 times. This time I'm not going back. I'm thinking she thinks ill call. What should I look forward to?

If you left her, then she is the one who was dumped. And, like all dumped people she will feel anger, denial, the need to want you back, etc. But she will be sorry that she no longer has someone to control until she finds another victim. Don't be that victim anymore.

She will probably text you to death, but stay strong and maintain the No Contact. It is better for you, and better for her.

Go see your friends, family, work out in the gym - and don't worry about what she might think or do.

Be glad you escaped this nightmare, and keep us posted.

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No one really dumped anyone, she explained about not knowing if she loved me so I just don't respond anymore. That was it. Its all on her. I'm done.

I guess silents is really golden isn't it?

3 yrs is a long time. Break ups are tough. In order for a relationship to work each person has to give 100 percent. You've done your part. She's just not woman enough to treat you with the same respect. Be strong and think about how much cooler life will be without "bedtimes" and all that bull S... Let her find some pansy to boss around. You're a REAL man right? Find a REAL woman. Not a psychopath.