Ask Me Help Desk - Self esteem

On the outside my life seems to be perfect. I have to beautiful girls and a loving husband who has put up with so much from me. I do suffer from depression and right now I can't seem to snap out of it. I was married before and basically gave up everything for him and didn't have support from family when I got the strength to go. My husband and I do have our problems but I can't tell if most of it is because of my previous experiences. I have trust issues and he has never done anything wrong to me, I (like most woman) feel like I should completely change my body because I don't think I'm what he wants, I walk w/my head down because I feel insecure because I have seen him check out girls around me, and I shut down because I've never had anyone actually care about my feelings (my family always treated me like I was overreacting.) My husband does but because of the situation w/ my ex and my family I don't know how to open up to him and by the time I do its too late. I recently had a baby who is an angel but is extremely fussy. With me being out he had to work a lot and like a mom w/a new baby and a two year old. I feel like he doesn't see how much I actually do

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Originally Posted by alibri07

On the outside my life seems to be perfect. I have to beautiful girls and a loving husband who has put up with so much from me. I do suffer from depression and right now I can't seem to snap out of it. I was married before and basically gave up everything for him and didn't have support from family when I got the strength to go. My husband and I do have our problems but I can't tell if most of it is because of my previous experiences. I have trust issues and he has never done anything wrong to me, I (like most woman) feel like I should completely change my body because I don't think I'm what he wants, I walk w/my head down because I feel insecure because I have seen him check out girls around me, and I shut down because I've never had anyone actually care about my feelings (my family always treated me like I was overreacting.) My husband does but because of the situation w/ my ex and my family I don't know how to open up to him and by the time I do its too late. I recently had a baby who is an angel but is extremely fussy. With me being out he had to work a lot and like a mom w/a new baby and a two year old. I feel like he doesn't see how much I actually do

Hi, I have a beautiful girl too, I had post natal depression , and it has taken nearly five years to beat it. One thing I have learnt is that until you have been there no one will ever no how you truly feel. I have had the same feelings, I hate most parts of my body and I'm sure my husband likes the look of plenty of others, I have given him a lot of grief and he has stuck by me , just like your husband will you, I found the best way to beat it was to treat yourself have a day away from the kids and buy a new outfit, spend time having a bath and getting ready take you hubby out for a meal and talk to him, I know mine never listened, but he cared and tried to understand, and we are good now, it is hard but you are the only one who can beat it , I have my doubts over my husband with trust, but if there going to do something nothing you say will change it . Try counselling I have heard it can help to talk about it. Good luck and be positive.

Well I've had depression 2 before, and it is not fun. But if its affecting your home life you should try 2 open up 2 your husband and maybe seek help w/ a counselor or something. U said u feel insecure because you've said that he check other girls out. Well just remember this: He loves you. Because if he didn't he wouldn't have chosen you and he would've chosen someone else, but he chose YOU. That's something that would definitely cheer me up. Anyway good luck w/ u and your family.