My boyfriend and I have gone through a really rough time. We were living with his mom and then she kicked us out... we had no where to go. So we stayed at a friends house for a night then I moved back in with my mom. My mom doestn like him so he wasn't allowed to move in with me. So we are a few cities apart... only about a 20 minute drive... well I saw him the day after I moved back into my moms and everything was fine.. but then 2 days later he broke up with me. He said that I needed to get my ged and get a job... and that he needed to get a job and pay off some bills... and he said that we need to do all of these things before we can get back together. I just want him back. I miss him. I love him with all of my heart and soul. We were together for a year and 4 months. Any suggestions? Please... I feel empty without him... :(

It sounds like he is doing the right thing. You both need to get your lives in order, or all the stress will eat you guys up. If he tells you he needs to get things together and better his situation, let him. He sounds like a smart man to me, you want him to be stable... and I would recommend you do the same.

Get your GED, get a job, save some money, with that money make sure you help your Mom with rent or food or other expenses (don't be the one who takes advantage of the parent) and then see where you and your boyfriend are. Give yourself a chance to grow up and be independent. Independence is a beautiful thing, it teaches you great lessons for life.

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Originally Posted by theHeartBrokenIrishGal

My boyfriend and I have gone through a really rough time. We were living with his mom and then she kicked us out...we had no where to go. so we stayed at a friends house for a night then i moved back in with my mom. my mom doestn like him so he wasnt alowed to move in with me. so we are a few cities apart...only about a 20 minute drive....well i saw him the day after i moved back into my moms and everything was fine..but then 2 days later he broke up with me. he said that i needed to get my ged and get a job...and that he needed to get a job and pay off some bills...and he said that we need to do all of these things before we can get back together. I just want him back. I miss him. I love him with all of my heart and soul. we were together for a year and 4 months. any suggestions? please... i feel empty without him...:(

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He sounds sensible. Do as he says. I think he actually really cares for you. He's taking the hard way, and remember only the soft way has a chance of failing.

I spoke to him today and he is seeing another girl already... its only been two weeks... plus when he broke up with me he said that there was a chance of us getting back together, but I had to change... and I know I had to... and I did... but then he also told me that he had to do all of those things that I had said before and he said that he couldn't do that stuff with a girldfriend and now he is seeing this girl... she was my friend... I love him so much... I want him back so bad, but I can't bear to see him with another girl.. how can I show him that I have changed? He said that if he were to come here to hang out she would probably be with him because they hang out all the time... I want him back... and I want to show him that I have changed... how can I go about doing that without crying when I see them together?:mad: :confused: :(

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Originally Posted by theHeartBrokenIrishGal

i spoke to him today and he is seeing another girl already...its only been two weeks...plus when he broke up with me he said that there was a chance of us getting back together, but i had to change... and i know i had to....and i did... but then he also told me that he had to do all of those things that i had said before and he said that he couldnt do that stuff with a girldfriend and now he is seeing this girl...she was my friend.... i love him so much... i want him back so bad, but i can't bear to see him with another girl.. how can i show him that i have changed? he said that if he were to come here to hang out she would prolly be with him bc they hang out all the time.... i want him back... and i want to show him that i have changed...how can i go about doing that without crying when i see them together?:mad: :confused: :(

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Hi!

You might want to write the above as an answer to your other post and continue the discussion there, please. Otherwise, people will get confused. This place doesn't operate like a chat room. I know where your other post is, but most people who are new to the site and want to help you might not know how to find it.l

theHeartBrokenIrishGal, I feel your pain. I know what it is like right at the moment. I wish I could give you some helpful insight. All I can say is, best thing to do is go NC. It is the hardest thing to do, but it is the only thing that may help. Once again I am sorry for your situation. I do hope it gets better.

I feel dead inside. I feel nothing but pain. I am empty. I want to die. ( but I won't kill myself) I just wish I would get hit by a bus or something and then see his face just one last time before I die. I don't know what to do. I went and took my ged test for us, not for me, but I did it for us. And now, I did it all for nothing. I am a nobody. I am nothing without him. I don't want to do anything anymore. I just want to lay down to sleep and never wake up, because in my dreams we are together. Today he told me that he just wants me to be happy. He makes me happy. If he really wanted me to be happy then he would want to be with me. I don't know. I really just wish that I would die. The pain is just too much. I cry myself to sleep every night. And then when I wake up I look over and he's not there next to me, its not our room, its not our bed anymore( the bed we made love in so many times) and then I cry because I remember that we aren't together anymore. That my dream was... well... just a dream. He didn't break my heart... he shattered it into a billion pieces. And... well he still has my heart... im sorry I just need someone to talk to and maybe some insight... someone please just shoot me so that I go to the hospital and I am dying... so I can see him one last time... so I can hear his voice... so I can smell his sweet scent... so I can feel his warm hands, and so I can see his beautiful face. I love him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, and he used to feel the same. I just want him to feel that way about me again. Or I might just die of a broken heart. :( :( :( :( :(

theHeartBrokenIrishGal, I know your pain. I feel the same way at the moment. Let me say one thing. Please don't talk like you want to die for real. I know it hurts, I know exactly how you feel I am a basket case as well. But I read somewhere, if you die then the possibility of anything is no more. You are dead so you will never be together. I am not trying to give you false hope, I am the last one at the moment to say anything about your partner coming back, cause I believe I have lost my GF for good. Just try NC and see where it leads. Since all other actions have not worked you have nothing to lose. I do hope for the best for you. Take care and try to be good to yourself...

Yes I know the feeling, that is very common for a person to feel at the beginning of a break up.

I think everyone has gone through what your feeling once in there lifes, and the ones who haven't I'm sure will one day, it's the worst feeling in the world physical pain will heal its this emotional pain that takes way way way longer, but you will heal one day... its going to take a while but try to work on yourself, make a list of all the things that made you happy at one point in your life(not including him) and start doing them again you need to rebuild yourself and focus on yourself before any healing can begin... just remember what's meant to be will be!

Excellent text. You're a natural writer and you also are very bright. You can give feelings an image for all to see and you also know that such feelings have and will forever be self limiting. Not trying to bore you but time does mend the darkened soul and when a faint light is seen be sure to hold on to it and in time that light will lead you back to your friends, family and all that you loved and enjoyed. I think this is the best choice if one were to have choices and I also think this is the choice 10s of millions of people have made when residing in the same place you so clearly described. Best on you, ps R the eyes green?