Can someone be addicted to control? I am thinking it might be a byproduct of being raised in a home with an addict and this is how it manifests in that person's life.

You might want to read up on co dependency and adult children of addicts.
Often the oldest child feels forced to play mother at a very early age but often many are left feeling hopeless and helpless.

Codependency

Adult children of alcoholics and drug addicts; consequences of suppressed childhood memories; role alcoholic family

ADULT CHILDREN ANONYMOUS: THE PROBLEM