I go out with this guy I want to marry he says he wants to marry me to but he can't keep a promise no matter what he promises ,we fight at least once a day and I am tired of fighting with him but I do love him and any time I dump him I always want him back a hour later cause I dump him a lot because he is not keeping a promise or cause we are fighting and then I want him right back and for some reason all I have to do is ask him to come back and he will we have been going out for 6 months please help me what should I do?:(

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Originally Posted by lover4

I go out with this guy i want to marry he says he wants to marry me ... what should i do?:(

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I swear, young girls are so naïve!

Let me put it to you straight: No man is going to buy the cow, when he can get the milk for free!

He is going to continue to tell you he wants to marry you as long as you "are putting out".

Face it, men only want one thing - and if you want a good man to marry you, you must make it clear that he is not going to get "this one thing" until he marries you. Otherwise, you are going to be used, just like he has used you all along.

Don't wait until you are 30 years old to look back and realize what a dummy you've been. Don't give it up until he ties the knot!

Of course, you've already spoiled this one. Dump his user butt and get a good man who loves you for who you are, and doesn't want you just cause he can get some booty.

It's time to take control of your life, and stop letting others control YOU!

SpaceRat

You say he cannot keep a promise and you and he fight at least once a day. You really want that for the next 50 years? No, you do not. You would end up killing him first.

I really doubt that you love him. I seriously doubt that he loves you. Love is not fighting and love is not breaking promises all the time. If you do not know what a healthy relationship is, I can see why you stay in this one. All the more reason to get out, step back, re evaluate yourself, be single for awhile! Get some professional counseling if you seriously think this guy is THE ONE. Because he is not the one - not for today and definitely not for tomorrow. Not Father material either.

I would ask that you go and find the following book.
"Single Wisdom" by Dr. Paris Fenner-Williams. Take your time with the book to digest all she is saying. Then look at this guy and you will see just how far off base he is and possibly why you made the wrong choice in him. Hopefully you will start to gain some insight into your own self and maturity. Even if you ditch this guy, you already have a pattern starting for picking the wrong guy. You do not need that drama in your life.
Be well and happy - that is the least you deserve for your life. Good luck.