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I know this may be on the long side, but please read, and any advice/suggestions/inputs/opinios, anything will be appreciated.

Here is the situation:

My uncle (no names mentioned) has decided to try and file for an order of protection against my grandparents (which would be his parents). They decided to do this, because they went to their children's school for grandparents day, and gave their kids a picture of themselves. Apprently, they don't want them seeing their kids at all. But that isn't the real problem here, if it was just in my grandparents "hands" I wouldn't even be typing this. But my grandparents want more or less everyone they can get to be with them in court (my parents, me, my sister, my aunt on my moms side and her kids) but the thing is, my uncle (the one taking them to court) has decided to drag up past events that involve me. Pastevents I was hoping was put behind me and forgotten about, events I really don't want to mention (just something I ever regretted doing when I was a KID) Now, I feel, if I do go to court to support them (my granparents) it will make THEM look like the "bad guys". It would make them look like the bad guys because I lived with them for a year (is the reason my uncle stated).

Now, the fact he is bringing the past up has seriously p***** me off! I have, for the moment decided NOT to go to court because with MY anger, I would see him, then at the end of the court session, I'd be led out of the court room in hand cuffs, so I think it is smart NOT going. At this point, I don't know what to do. I thought I had enough stress in my life, and now this has popped up.

I guess my question is, should I go to court anyway, despite how me and my grandparents will look? And just suggest he is, I don't know, guarded, or something? I just have never been so mad with a relative before, I tried stress balls, but have popped one or two, I tried just clenching my fists, but my nails dig into my palms, and start bleeding, I have tried forgetting about it, but someone brings it up.

Sorry to bore y'all with endless blabber. But it beatrs having to pay a shrink to unload this to. Besides, I couldn't afford a shrink even IF I wanted to see one, too expensive nowadays.

Hello t:

I wouldn't testify against my grandparents. But that's just me.

excon

Hey con,

My grandparents want me on THEIR side. I wouldn't testify against them either, its my uncle who is starting all this trouble. If anything, I would be testifying against my uncle.

Hello again, t:

I wouldn't testify against ANYBODY.

excon

So, are you saying I should skip out on the court date, unless otherwise obligated to go?

I don't quite understand your thread. Especially the part about "being led out of the courtroom in handcuffs". You haven't mentioned anything about being arrested and charged with a crime. Did you do something criminal during the year you lived with your grandparents and you're afraid that your uncle is going to bring that up in court? If it isn't relevant to the case your uncle is trying to make against your grandparents then their attorney should immediately object and have it be sustained. In that case it'd all be hearsay and no action would be taken against you in the courtroom. As for you appearing in court on behalf of your grandparents I'd have to ask what personal role, if any, do you have in the case your uncle is trying to build against your grandparents? Are you in a position to be a credible witness one way or the other? It's hard to see where you fit into all of this. If I understand the situation correctly, your uncle is seeking an order of protection against your grandparents because your uncle doesn't want them around his kids. It really doesn't sound like you're in a position to give any testimony one way or another as the situation doesn't involve you personally. Any "mistakes" you may have made when you were young are totally irrelevant unless perhaps you did them while you were under your grandparents' care and guardianship and they knowingly permitted you to do such things. If that's true than that may come into evidence against your grandparents. But it won't result in any sanctions against you ; you'll just have to testify that you did those things, with your grandparents' knowledge and that they failed to take any reasonable steps to prevent you from doing them.

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Originally Posted by terminator05

So, are you saying I should skip out on the court date, unless otherwise obligated to go?

Yes. Unless you're subpoenaed, there's no reason for you to go.

Cianci, what I mean by "led out in hand cuffs" is, my hate for my uncle at this point is so high, that if I see him, no matter where I am, I will do something I'll regret, like attack the m***** f***er.

And also, I did do something criminal, which is why I was staying at my greandparents, and my uncle is trying to use THAT to have the court shift his way.

Sorry if its long!
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My uncle no names mentioned) has decided to try and file for an order of protection against my grandparents (which would be his parents). They decided to do this, because they went to their children's school for grandparents day; and give their kids a picture of themselves. Apparently, They don't want them seeing their kids at all. But that isn't the real problem here , if it was just in my grandparents “hand” l wouldn't even be typing this. But my grandparents want more or less everyone they can get to be with them in count (my parents, me, my sister, my aunt on my moms side and her kids) but the thing is, my uncle (the one taking them to count) has decided to drag up past events that involve me. Past events I was hoping was put behind me and forgotten about , events I really don't wants to mention (just something I ever regretted doing when I was a KID) Now , I feel, if I do go court to support them (my grandparents) it will make THEM look like the” bad guys” lt would make them look like the bad guys with them for a year (is the reason mu uncle stared). Now, the fact he is bringing the past up has seriously p******me off! I have, for the moment decided NOT to go to court because with MY anger, l would see him, than at the end of the court session , I'd be led out of the court room in hand cuffs, so I think It is smart NOT going. At this point, l don't know what to do. I thought I had enough stress in my life, and now this has popped up. I guess my question is, should I go to court anyway, despite how me and my grandparents will look? And just suggest he is, I don't know, guarded, or something? I just have never been so mad with a relative before, I tried stress balls, but have popped one or two , I tried just clenching my fists, but my nails dig into my palm , and start bleeding, I have tried forgetting about it, but someone brings it up.
Sorry to bore y'all with endless blabber. But it beaters' having to pay a shrink to unload this to. Besides, I couldn't afford a shrink even IF I wanted to see one, too expensive nowadays.

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Originally Posted by lloydj

... Should I stay with him or break up with him? Please give me advice and if u tell me yes can u please give a reason why and anything you think might help our relationship. ...

You should break up with him. Why? Because you cut and paste long, rambling posts from 3 1/2 years ago is why. :rolleyes: