So I guess this is how it is, I am in the process of joining the army and my ex girl comes back in to play I was with her for 3 years she was my life she left me about 4 months ago for some one a lot younger ( I am only 20)i love her with all of my heart but I don't no what way to go . The army offers a lot but so dose she .my head is spinning I don't no if this is the right thing I wish I just knew the future this is making me crazy. I need some help I need some one to tell me it going to be OK take the risk, life is full of them and if you don't take it you will just spend the rest of it wondering what if I did do it. I really want it to be the right thing but if its not what I am missing some were else. There is so many what ifs I can't stand it HELP. Oh and she broke up with the kid to be with me but, can I trust her I want to I really do but I don't won't to go through what I just been though again. I know it's a big decision to make and I should trust my gut but what if its wrong, I don't know if I can trust myself its to big its to life changing:confused: :confused:

As far as you know she broke up with the kid for you, but it could have as easily been his breaking up with her that she contacted you. Look man, she left you for another that's something that's difficult to get over and will only impede your relationship. Plus are you going to live your life based on her whims? Whenever she feels like it she may drop you and then come back? Screw that, be a man. Most importantly you'll be ten times better off if you find a future for yourself and create a stable environment. Letting her realize what she lost. Say you'd rather be friends and go off and do your own thing. Be careful with the army though, as we are at war and may not see an end to that for a while. Make sure you're doing it for you and not to "run" away from the pain of facing single life. Now if you truly want to keep her then postpone the army thing and go to college first but make sure you start trying to be friends first tell her what she did was rotten and that you couldn't see yourself being ready to commit to anything. It seems that would be smarter anyway as you are not in the right emotional state to make a decision as big as joining the army, otherwise you wouldn't have any doubts if you were in the right state. Cheers.