Tonight(been here before) he drank and than he talked in his sleep. When I tried to wake him up I sat down next to him while he laid there and asked if he was hungry. Dinner was done and I wanted to know. He said he wanted his dinner from the night before and I told him it wasent here it was at the house he lives at with two other women and a male. He said he liked girls sitting next to him and than he said no not girls just you. Than he rubbed my waist and asked where our sons mom was and I asked him if he always rubbed my waist. He called me by his roommates name and kept asking where I was to watch the kids. He moved his hand when I asked him if he always rubbed me like that. Problem is he thought I was his female roommate. He recently told me how she leaves the room and he will go lay down in there, he lost my phone in her room, calls her about our problems and today he called her a lot. Than got upset cause she agreed with me on a topic we were fighting about. He asked her why she was taking my side and not his side. Than to find out they went out to dinner together last night. This is my husband of four years. Sunday night we were intimate and stopped and he said ohh yeah you work tomorrow and I lost my job a week before that. BUT his roommate did work the next day. Once again he was talking to me like I was her and he tried to say he was thinking of our past like we had not been separated for six months off and on. I think it has gone past emotional and I now think they are also sexual. He said he was sorry and wants me not to hold it against him cause he was asleep when he said it and he has messed up dreams. I think its an excuse cause he got CAUGHT. Thoughts anyone??

Lying Cheating Hearts. I say leave him, I know its hard with kids but if he is cheating on you which by the description above he IS... the best thing to do is leave him alone. If you want to be with him, the best thing to be is "take a break" because if he is cheating on you and even suspects that you know and still continues in this behavior, he is losing respect for you by the second and he will cheat on you later just because he can and because you "let" him before. If you leave him, he may just realize just what a wonderful woman you are and do what ever it takes to get you back. Also I think it would be great for you to get out and mingle, you'd be surprised how many GOOD men would love to take his place!
Good Luck!

A drunk, is a drunk.

Never waste your time trying to talk to a drunk. I got a whole history of living with drunks in the family and all it ever got me was confused.

I echo the proceeding posters and suggest that you take steps to protect yourself and get out. There is no reason on this good earth for you to wallow in his quagmire.

Ditto,

I agree with the above comments,LEAVE HIM!

Are the kids better off with the idea of an on again,off again relationship? Are you?Needless to say what you might catch from a promiscuous partner?

Like most things, there are at least 2 views of a situation,I hope you keep perspective on this and chose wisely.

Ken

Leave his gobble-d-goop alone, and get Your own life together, as I have said in your other post. You can't help him at this point, so get this drunk out of your life.