My ex-wife wants her husband who is the stepfather to my 7yr old son,to adopt him so he can financially support him if she should pass away.They are very well off and they would like to give him the very best schooling etc... They have a 1yr old son of there own.I have access to my son whenever I want and we all have a great understanding.My son has been living with his stepdad for 3yrs plus.I am in a position to take my son in the event of his mother passing but he wouldn't have anything of the things that he is use to except unboundless love.If I let him legally adopt my son I feel that I am giving up my son and one day he will look upon me as a weak father.The other reason is that they don't want to split up the two brothers if something should happen to the mom.I love my son dearly and would not hesitate at a chance to have him with me 24/7.What is the right thing to do?