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  • Oct 10, 2007, 04:14 PM
    trublkfml1
    I want my ex boyfriend back but he has a girlfriend
    I was with my ex boyfriend for 1year and 2months.My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for 8months now. He's turning 19years old in about two more weeks and I'm 22years old. We were each others first love. We were also each others longest relationship. Im not sure for the cause of the break up but when we broke up he told me we would get back together. Not long after we broke up I found out he had another girlfriend. During 7 months of our break up He would still call me and check on me to see how I'm doing but I guess I got too emotional and started doing things to make him hurt how I was hurting. Last week I found out his girlfriend moved in with him at his mother house and now he won't speak to me or call me anymore. I want him back but I feel like I can't compete. What could I do to either get back on good terms with him or to get him back? I've never gone a day without thinking about him or missing him. I feel as though I need him back.
  • Oct 10, 2007, 06:32 PM
    Homegirl 50
    I think you are just out of luck, and if you're thinking of coming between those two, you need to be out of luck. He wants you to leave them alone. Act like a mature respectable person and do it.
  • Oct 11, 2007, 10:50 AM
    yourman64
    I'm in the same situation but the other way around, you should get him to want you back if I werehim all you would have to do is tell me how you feel and I would give you a second chance do you think that you would be able to help me?
  • Oct 11, 2007, 10:54 AM
    Homegirl 50
    If you go after this guy, you should really be ashamed of yourself. He has a girlfriend and has told you to leave him alone. Don't act like some insecure selfish child and try to break them up just because you want him back. Get over it and move on.
  • Oct 11, 2007, 11:17 AM
    smoothy
    Move on... you broke up 8 months ago, and you were only together for a year before that... thats nothing, He moved on, so should you.
  • Oct 11, 2007, 11:25 AM
    Ash123
    Stalk him.

    I mean you already are - but make it official:
    Hire a detective to follow him during the day.
    Then, park outside his house at night.
    Maybe crack into his email... Follow him through the market and bump into him "by accidentt"...
    By the age of 30 you may get tired and get another boyfriend... But until then, it's better than having no one in your life at all I guess...

    OR, move on... and let your heart heal like everyone must. And be glad you are 22 and not 92.
  • Oct 11, 2007, 11:47 AM
    Zell
    I know what its like to watch someone you loved go of with someone else. The best advice I can give is to let go. No contact is the best way, cut this guy out of your life. You still think about him everyday, You ex is confusen, get rid of him and the pain will ease over time, I know everyone says it will get better over time, I never believed it at first, but it hounestly does. It will hurt and you will still think about him but it will ease off eventually. He has moved on and found someone else, you should pick yourself up and move on.
    You feel as you need this guy back... Do you really need him, or do you just miss the closeness?

    Good luck =)
  • Oct 11, 2007, 12:24 PM
    talaniman
    He has moved on with his life, and so should you. You cared a lot more than he did, but its time to let go, and accept this thing is over, and has been for a while.
  • Oct 11, 2007, 05:43 PM
    statictable
    You make it very clear how you feel. You make it very clear what your x-b.f. has chosen to do. You make your goals very clear. Imagine being on an elevator in a very tall building. The elevator is going to stop 8 times before making it up to the 87th floor. Every time the elevator stops you say to everyone "I want this elevator to go down." After the 4th stop a kind old woman wispers in your ear "why don't you get off at the next floor and take another elevator down." IT'S TIME TO MOVE ON. You'll be fine.
  • Oct 12, 2007, 03:34 PM
    Jiser
    Time is the best weapon for a broken heart.

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