Does anyone agree with me that there should be a pill we take and get over someone really quick so we do not have to dwell on what we had... I am a male but I feel like I've bee acting like a female in the sense that I get upset cry sometimes. And even get stuck thinking of my ex for hours a day... Anyone no how to make the symptons left and I've heard most of them... anyone else who's going through it now and what is working for uuuuu

You're not thinking like a female.

It is very normal for a man to take a break up very hard.

Good so I'm not alone... I still need my pill but

The first few weeks I wished for such a pill. Right now, 2 months in you couldn't pay me to have taken it. The reason is this: If you could just forget the ex get over etc instantly, you haven't learned anything from the situation. You would be back to exactly where you were when you started with the ex, and probably repeat the same thing over and over again. I definetely don't want to relive the pain I went through the last 2 months, but I wouldn't trade it away for anything. I have discovered more about myself in 2 months then 25 years before.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by madaman

The first few weeks I wished for such a pill. Right now, 2 months in you couldnt pay me to have taken it. The reason is this: If you could just forget the ex get over etc instantly, you havent learned anything from the situation. You would be back to exactly where you were when you started with the ex, and probably repeat the same thing over and over again. I definetely dont want to relive the pain I went through the last 2 months, but I wouldnt trade it away for anything. I have discovered more about myself in 2 months then 25 years before.

---

Wow this is so true. Pain also shows that you are alive. And discovering more to yourself in 2 months than in 25 years is so true. Going through pain really does help you see the most important things in life and to learn.

I imagine relationships as a series of stepping stones on a river where if you fall into it, the relationship ends. There are only good and bad stepping stones, and you have to go through the bad times to step onto the good ones, or you give up and fall into the river. The same could be said of life in a sense ;)

I wish there was a pill also. It's been 3 months for me and every time I think I am fine I am not. Now is one of those times. Keep thinking about my ex and missing her a lot.

I no this is making me stronger so it's a part of life what I noticed I think more in the morning as the day starts I feel better but it usually starts kind of hard... its been 3 weeks and a day I need to move on...

Me too.

However I can't. I'm now depressed. I suffered depression a few years ago and now its back. I was fine last week but this has been the worst week of my life. If my mum wasn't around I would have ended it by now. I want to.

I see nothing in the future, no light at the end of the tunnel. I have nothing to look forward to, a lonely birthday, a lonely christmas a lonely new year. I'm 32, I'm not in a position to just go out with friends all the time and move on. All my friends are in couples and the ones who aren't don't like doing the same things I do.

A pill would be good. Even better would be one which put me to sleep permanently.

If you had a pill to feel better then you wouldn't work hard to make your life happy. You can't grow that way, if you had a pill for a crutch.

Gingerkid, seek a doctor to help, because some of us for whatever reason need a little help sometimes. Good Luck!

This is true I'm starting to see that I'm making all positive changes cause I'm hurt if I wasn't I probably woudnt have even tried. I get it now...

Hey So now I understand why you need to hurt to grow and better yourself now my new issues are jealousy mostly on her days off and when she usually goes clubbing wich is every weekend sooo that's the last stepp other then the normal sadness that I have to get over... I no I could do it but I really just think and think and think who she's with guy what and what there doing so once I'm passed that I should be doing fairly well... anyone else felt those feelings after the hurt started to ease up??

You have to actively change the 'subject' in your mind whenever you start thinking about her. It won't work at first but after a while you can just NOT think about it. It is tough and the thoughts will come back, but you have to ignore/change them.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by madaman

You have to actively change the 'subject' in your mind whenever you start thinking about her. It wont work at first but after a while you can just NOT think about it. It is tough and the thoughts will come back, but you have to ignore/change them.

---

Yea that's what I have been trying to do its tuff but it can be done...

I went through a breakup this year myself so I know how you feel. I even had to be put on antidepressants because of it. All you can do is try to live your life day to day and try to think positively about things. I've found that being around friends helps me to cope with my pain. We all deserve to be happy in our lives. I know you will find it one day, and I wish you the best of luck. Something wonderful is waiting for you down the road.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by little firefly

I went through a breakup this year myself so i know how you feel. I even had to be put on antidepressants because of it. All you can do is try to live your life day to day and try to think positively about things. i've found that being around friends helps me to cope with my pain. We all deserve to be happy in our lives. I know you will find it one day, and i wish you the best of luck. Something wonderful is waiting for you down the road.

---

Have u found it yet how long did it take u to get over it all?? How do u feel now?

I'm still looking for that happiness and it's been six months since my breakup, but I feel myself getting stronger everyday. There are still some days when all I seem to do is cry, but then I step back and I think of all the people in my life who love and care about me and I have strength to move forward again. Sometimes it takes a long time to work through a broken heart, but I know I'll get there and so will you. This forum has really helped me a lot because I can interact with people just like me. We're like a support group helping each other to cope.

I think if there was a breakup pill I think I would have OD'D on them by now. I have been going through a breakup and you have your ups and downs. I have good days then I have days like 2 day where I think about my ex and wonder if she is thinking about me. But to dwell on that is just hurting you doesn't hurt them.

Def sooo tru the more you dwell the more empty I feel and its sooo not worth it, I feel alone sometimes even when I'm with people because 1 person is not in my life anymore cause she does not want to be go figure

Stupid advice.

Okay, so here it is sooo far this Wednesday makes 3 weeks I have not been with my ex she contacted me once for her stuff and I contact last Tuesday cause I slipped, but I can actually honestly say that a lot of the pain and emptiness that I had is starting to fade. I went out with a girl I recently met as friends and she opened my eyes in the sense that there are a lot of women out there with a lot more in common and that like the things that I do... it makes me see that this is the right decision as hard as it is at this point... Now I went from being sad and almost crying to being upset every so often nothing like before and now when I'm with people I feel great and I can push the thoughts of the breakup aside and have fun... So the pain is fading and I no that I will make it the mornings are still a bit rough and when I'm home alone is tuff also but I do see hope in sight./ I even think less about her being with guys of course id rather not no but I am healing...